Summer is approaching and the pressure of getting in shape is upon us yet again. Like every year, social media and magazines try to have us believe we need to get working on that famous #beachbody everyone talks about.
Out of my own experience and as I’ve coached many women, I can promise you that it’s a search for something that won’t take you any further from what you wish for. Sure, in the short run it’s possible. But many times, it causes more pain than pleasure. It’s usually an endless search, driven by the diet mentality. Frankly, it’s a search that only is going to take you further and further away from the authentic you and a happy life.
I know, because I’ve experienced it myself. I truly believed that my body shape, the size of my arms and thighs, as well as the number on the scale determined the quality of my life. Because I thought that as soon as I would lose those four kilos, I was going to feel better; attract that very special guy and all of a sudden get everything I wanted and wished for.
So, did I get it? No, not at all. As much of a cliché as it might sound, I already had a body that was capable of all of what I wanted.
In fact, it doesn’t matter what my body looks like physically. My own happiness can only be found within me, no size or particular body shape would be more beneficial than any other. Most importantly, I shouldn’t have to wait for the right moment to start living my life, I just had to start loving my body (and myself) by appreciating it right then and there and it all would have been so much easier.
But, it´s not always that easy. So, I want to share some tips that may calm the minds of people going through something similar and help you see that your body is good enough as it is.
Be gentler with yourself
When negative thoughts appear, tell yourself that it will only be a burden carrying them around. Close your eyes as you breathe in and visualize a calm you in a healthy body and with healthy nourishing thoughts. Then exhale the bullshit.
The more you obsesse about food and your body – the unhealthier you become. In my case the more I thought about food, the heavier I actually became. Not to mention the burden of all those negative thoughts, don´t carry that around.
Shift focus – be of service to others
Ask yourself how you can be of service to others? How you can add more value and love to others? Because when we shift focus away from ourselves, we tend to forget and get perspective on our own “problems”, as they become smaller and the person in front of us becomes more important.
You are not what you eat
Remove the equal sign between “what I eat” and “who I am”. My eating behavior are my actions and doesn’t determine who I am as a person or my worth in this world.
Don’t let your weight determine your happiness
Look at your body for what it is and what it’s capable of, rather than what it looks like in comparison to others or the number on the scale. Accept and start loving yourself, no matter size and shape.
Yes, I took a detour, like so many other women. But in the end, we are all learning as we go and nothing will ever be “perfect”. Life is a journey with ups and downs. Learnings and understandings are a natural part of life that will only bring us closer to our own truths.
By: Health Coach Teresia Tingström