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Do self-help books actually help?

They are no longer hidden in the back corner of the book store. Today self-help books are a huge business and offer to solve pretty much any problem. The only question is – do they really help?

I can’t really recall when I bought my first self-help book. I’m a big fan of reading, but this selection was unknown to me until sometime in my mid-twenties. Books were a magical escape into a new world and I had not seen them as something offering a solution to my life problems. Then one of my friends recommended one of his favorite self-help books and my bookshelf became home to more and more titles that promised to improve my life in one way or another.

As I read, I started noticing something; First, none of these books offer magical solutions, because there are no magical solutions in life. Secondly, they can’t do much, other than to inspire you to take actions that will lead you to the desired outcome. And thirdly, just reading them without implementing their messages won’t get you anywhere. However, getting a book that will help you with your problems is a step in the right direction as you’re taking action and you are willing to make some changes.

What I noticed from my personal experience is that in order for the books to help, you have to read them with an open mind. You may feel tempted to roll your eyes every once in a while, but try to stay open minded.

It took me a while to understand that knowing something and actually doing it are two different things.

That’s why these books work more as reminders and a source of inspiration and will hopefully give you the little push you need in the right direction. That is also why I like to come back to them, to make sure I stay on the right track and I don’t forget to apply the wisdom to my everyday life. It has no use if it stays on the pages.

I guess my point is that self-help books can, like any other books, be good or bad. Some authors are better than others and some you may not like at all. If you decide to give them a chance, research a bit before you click ‘add to cart’. Also, be open-minded. In my case self-help books helped me learn some things and they helped me improve my life to the extent of how much I worked on it. And for me, there will always be more room on my bookshelf for new self-help titles. After all, life is a work in progress.


By: Ivona Iwarra Josipovic / Photo cred 

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I changed the rules

For years, I’ve been living by the rules. Or what I thought were the rules. Turns out I was interpreting them all wrong.

Be nice: let others walk all over you.
Be respectful: do not utter your own opinion.
Be humble: stay within your comfort zone.
Be polite: do not stand up for yourself and constantly apologize.

Let’s say I have built up a fair amount of frustration over the years, until I realized what a waste of time and energy it was trying to please everyone. But it’s one thing to recognize it, and admit it. It´s a whole different thing to actually act on it. You can repeat to yourself that life is short, you can buy postcards with empowering quotes, but when you find yourself facing challenging situations, habits die hard.

When I turned 30 I told myself (I even wrote it down) that this year would be the one I do what makes me truly happy. 6+ months in the year it’s time for a check-up:

While my changes are neither “drastic” nor spectacular, I am proud. I stood up for myself on several occasions. In my own way, but I did. What I am probably most proud of however, is getting out of my comfort zone. I gathered the courage to tell people I liked what they were doing/wearing/standing for. I reached out to them and told them I felt the same way and that I had dreams and skills in spades. I shut up the little voice in my head saying “who do you think you are? Why would people care? You really think one else thought of that before you?!”.

And what happened? People reached back. People wanted to meet and brainstorm. In six months, I made more new friends and interesting contacts than I had in years, people who took me to where I am today.  And the best part: it brought me to the beautiful adventure that Best of You is.

My rules haven’t changed, but they now have a whole new meaning:
Be nice: take care of yourself to be able to care for others.
Be respectful: always hear others out before letting them hear your voice.
Be humble: share successes, admit and learn from failures.
Be polite: never stop smiling.

Habits die hard. Key word being: die. Like everything else in life, with practice come progress.


By: Morgane Oleron

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Follow my journey to a stronger and healthier me  

A few weeks ago, I met Michael Glover, the founder of rebirth fitness in Stockholm. He introduced me to his concept and immediately caught my interest.

rebirth is dedicated to providing the best personal training and wellness services in the most unique, private environments. They develop personalized training programs based on your individual needs, your condition, and your goals, sharing their knowledge to make your training more effective and fun!

I am an active girl (or should I say lady), but not in the “running to the gym every day” kind of way. I prefer to go for long walks, throw in a few power walks and get on my yoga mat to find what feels good.  Strength training on the other hand, not so familiar with. Of course I have suffered through both Abs and Ass and Bodypump from time to time, but I never grasped the whole concept of strength training and how it can help my body in more ways than one.

Until I met Michael.

Having two jobs it’s fair to say that I sit a lot in front of a computer and my neck and back pay the dues. Being 28 years old and have a posture of a 90 year old, not so fun. Being 28 years old and not strong enough to hold a ball of 10 kg, not so fun. Being 28 years old and have headaches because my neck is hurting, again; not so fun. So Michael and I decided to team up and do something about that.

Being 28 years old and have a posture of a 90 year old, not so fun.

I will meet Michael for 10 whole session and during those sessions he will get me in shape in a fun and effective way (the rebirth way). In about five weeks he will get my body working again, help me get stronger and teach me to exercise the right way for my body.

Follow my journey on our Instagram account and I will of course check in later and let you know how it goes when a regular (very untrained girl) hits the gym.

Wish me good luck!


By: Henriette Danielsen, Editor in Chief / Photo cred: Clara Mo / Location: rebirth fitness

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Happiness boosters

Ever have those days where you’re just not motivated to workout, but you do it anyway? And afterwards you have a burst of energy and your whole day just seems brighter, happier, and overall more productive?

That’s a little reaction caused by chemicals in our body known as endorphins. Endorphins improve natural immunity and reduce our perception of pain. Exercise also triggers the neurotransmitter norepinephrine, which may directly improve our mood.

Regularly exercising is not only great for our bodies health but for our emotional and mental health as well. Some studies have even shown that exercise could even serve as a replacement for those taking antidepressants for mild to moderate depression.

So, we know that exercise is good for our emotional health – but how much exercise do we really need to see the effects on our mood? Experts suggest we only need half an hour to an hour of moderate exercise, like brisk walking, five to seven days a week. Regularly exercising is also a great way to boost your self-confidence, distract your mind from worries, and help you make new friends.

So, next time you’re starting to feel a little down, try going on an evening
(or morning, for you early birds) walk and really practice being in the moment.

Not only does exercise really help improve your overall mood, getting the proper nutrients to fuel your body can make a huge difference too.

When your body gets the nutrition it needs, you end up being able to maintain higher energy levels that will help you maintain regular exercise. And eating a variety of healthy foods is important because what we eat directly effects our brains. Carbohydrates increase our serotonin – the happy chemical – which is why some of us crave ALL THE CARBS when we’re under stress. Healthy fats (omega-3 fatty acids) also influence our brain processes because they become part of the membranes of brain cells.

Pretty cool, right?

If you find yourself feeling “low” throughout the day, try changing the timing of your meals. And try to stick to healthy snacks (we’ve got lots of options), and eat nutrient-dense meals for breakfast, lunch, and dinner and see what happens.

In conclusion, if you find yourself having a rough go of things lately, make it a point to get out and be active whether it’s by yourself, with friends or family. Go for a walk, take a yoga class, or try something new. Afterwards, replenish your body with nutritious food and I’ll bet you start feeling better (and no; enjoying some chocolate from time to time on the sofa won’t kill you).

There are a lot of things that cause stress in our daily lives, so be patient with yourself and take the time to breathe, be active, let go, and recharge.


By: Samantha Thayer / Photo cred: Clara Mo /Location: rebirth fitness

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Happiness is the highest form of health

Best of You is relaunching today and we are proud to present our improved website and our brand new concept.

Best of You is an inspirational lifestyle and wellness platform where we want to encourage and inspire our readers to embrace a happy and healthy lifestyle. It´s run by two passionate spirits; Henriette and Mo and their wonderful team of freelancers.

What we offer is

We believe health is a combination of what we choose to fuel our body and mind with. Health is not just what you eat or how you choose to exercise, but also how you see, talk and perceive yourself. Our goal is to provide you with the inspiration and tools to live your life to the best of your ability and love every part of yourself.

We truly hope you like our evolved concept as the joy of sharing and creating a community around Best of You is what drives us every day. In the end, all we want is to be happy, and find the balance to live a long and fulfilled life. As Dalai Lama once said: “Happiness is the highest form of health”, and we couldn’t agree more.

So, take a look around, meet the team and be inspired.

Lots of love from Henriette and Mo

 

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Spring is in the air

Spring is in the air… almost.

Call me crazy, but I love to start planning how I’ll tackle spring cleaning the home in March. The one thing that always makes me feel calm is having a clean, fresh, home. There’s nothing better than coming home after a long day at work to a house that is tidy, bedding that is fresh, and floors that are shining!

I’m going to share some tips with you on how to start planning for spring cleaning and how to get yourself through it. It can be a long, daunting, process if you don’t plan accordingly. I know, it’s been that way for me in the past.

Having a plan in mind on how to tackle different areas of your home is something I highly recommend. Without further ado, here are my spring cleaning tips for 2017:

Start early
Probably my favorite tip (and why we are publishing this so early, hehe) is to start your spring cleaning early. Maybe you don’t necessarily want to start cleaning right away, but now is a good time to start setting up a game plan. Depending on the size of your living space, you may need more or less time for this.  There are plenty of spring cleaning calendars and checklists online, but my favorite is this one by Clean Mama.

Take it slow
Don’t feel like you have to clean every nook and cranny in your house/apartment on the same day. Like I said, depending on the size of your home, this could really drive a person crazy!

Look online for tips and tricks
There are tons of cleaning “hacks” online.  Check out this article by BuzzFeed with Lazy Girl Cleaning Hacks J.

Make it a family affair
Whether you live with friends, a partner, spouse, or children, make spring cleaning an annual affair! Divvy out the responsibilities and decide on something fun to do afterwards. Maybe reward yourself with going to the movies, going for a hike, or treating yourself to a snack!

Good luck!


By: Samantha Thayer

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The beauty of blank space in your calendar

I looked at my calendar this morning and realized I have something going on every single day the next few weeks. Having planned every single day into detail made me realize how little I set aside time to do nothing.

We have become a culture that is severely uncomfortable with blank spaces in our calendars. We rarely set aside time to be alone and do nothing, mostly because it doesn’t sound so fun. And for some it may be hard being alone, having to face their true emotions and take the time to reflect upon life. Scrolling through our phone or continue running from one social gathering to another just seems so much easier, right?

Personally, I am terrified of days where I have nothing planned! I get so restless and I got this idea in my head that I need to do something all the time. I need to be active, social and productive. Days of not having to do anything, what is that? And by doing nothing I of course don’t mean sitting and stare at the wall, I mean have a day where you don’t plan anything. Simply clear your calendar and let the day unfold.

No agenda, no rushing around. Just be.

Sometimes the best thing to do is give your body and mind a break and remove all social obligations, turn off your notifications and put your projects on hold. Simply take a day and just be.

Why, you may wonder?

It’s healthy! It may sound boring, but taking time to do nothing often brings everything into perspective and gives your mind a little break from all the images, noises and impressions thrown its way. And it actually takes the absence of an agenda to really get to know yourself.

So, time to turn this around and clear my calendar. Make room for some empty pages and see what the day will bring. Be spontaneous again, feel and embrace! Going on autopilot may be efficient, but maybe not the best way to live.

What about you? Will you give it a try with me? Simply wake up and resist the urge to immediately DO something. It might take some time to break the habit (at least it will for me), but let’s try! But let’s start with once a week (babysteps, hihi)!


By: Henriette Danielsen

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Embracing my own power – This is my story

Looking back on the last 13 years always makes me a little sad. Not because I didn’t have a nice life, filled with friends, boyfriends and family. Not because I didn’t have a roof over my head, an education or a job. No, it makes me sad looking back because I spent years of my life at war with myself.

I began hating my body when I was around 13 years old. I gained a lot of weight, really fast and spent the next 3 years hiding in oversized clothes, laughing away comments thrown my way. Food became a comfort and I pretty much ate everything I could find, and of course refused to exercise. But this all turned when I turned 16 and got sick. I couldn’t eat for days, and I lost a lot of weight during those weeks. When I finally got better I realized how good I felt, having lost a few kilos, so I decided to lose some more. And some more. And it didn’t stop.

My health didn’t matter, as long as I looked good.

As it happens for many girls I got obsessed about my looks, wanting to be skinnier and prettier. My health didn’t matter, as long as I looked good. The more compliments I got from the people closest to me, the more obsessed I got about looking even better. So, I stopped eating. Breakfast was switched out with water and cigarettes became my main diet. I started working out like crazy, practically living at the gym. During the same time, I partied a lot, since alcohol seemed to help, distracting me from my painful inner war. My body could of course not handle it, and I ended up fainting almost every time.

During this period, I was so unhappy. I was thinner than ever, but my body couldn’t keep up. I was sick all the time and had no energy. On the outside I looked happy, but on the inside I was tearing myself apart. I spent the majority of my time lost in self-critical thoughts, hating my body and constantly comparing myself to others. I lost myself on the way and even more, I lost good friends.

My turning point came, but when I look back at it today I am not sure what it was. I remember my mom pushed me to eat, my best friend at the time too. But what turned my switch? I really can’t say. But something happened and I started to eat regularly again and gained weight. But that’s when the real struggle began for me. Because the negative and destructive thoughts wouldn’t go away. My head continued a war against my body, the only difference now was that I ate.

Not being able to love myself is one of the most painful things I have experienced. Not feeling worthy of somebody else’s love, always thinking I was inadequate. My low self-esteem destroyed many good relationships and turned me into a very jealous person, leaving me heartbroken more often than I can count.

As I got older, I found myself in a relationship that was on the tipping point because I still thought I wasn’t worthy of love. I talked myself down in front of this man day after day, until one day he had enough. He told me to stop it. That he didn’t find me attractive anymore because I was so insecure. It may sound terrible, but I guess that was just what I needed. Because then and there I decided enough was enough. I was so ashamed. Hearing something like that from someone you love so deeply does something to you.

So how did I free myself at last? I embraced my own power!

I finally found the will to change. And not through a new diet, but by chancing my way of thinking, my language of communication and my relationship with my own heart and soul. By slowly challenging my mind I learned that kindness and self-love does so much more than all my hatred ever did. I slowly began to love myself. It didn’t happen overnight and I still have days I criticize myself, quietly or out loud, but the difference now is that I know I am worthy, and I know it’s just a bad day, not a bad life.

My story isn’t special. Sadly, there are thousands of people out there who have gone through, or go through the same thing, fighting a battle against their own body and mind. And this is what made me want to start up Best of You. I want to show people that they can be healthy without being extreme and that health doesn’t mean abs and a tight ass. It has absolutely nothing to do with your looks. Being healthy first and foremost means being happy and grounded, and most importantly: loving yourself and finding what feels good. Why spend time hating something as holy as your body, curvy or not? Because in the end you and your body is all you got, and you’re pretty damn awesome! Skip the hate, skip the restrictions and have fun instead. As Dalai Lama once said: “Happiness is the highest form of health”, and I couldn’t agree more. I will never regret that I freed myself and embraced my own power, even though the journey was long.


By: Henriette Danielsen, Editor in Chief / Photo cred: Anja Hertzberg

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Top Ted Talks

If you have access to the Internet (which you obviously do since you’re here) you have probably come across TED Talks. If not you’re in for a treat!

TED is a nonprofit devoted to spreading ideas, usually in the form of short, powerful talks. They cover almost all topics in more than 100 languages and are a huge source of inspiration and motivation for so many people all over the globe.

It’s hard to choose, but here are some of our favorites. Enjoy!

Do you have any favorites you would like to share? Leave a comment in the comment field below.


By: Henriette Danielsen

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Instagram favorites

It’s time to share some of our favorite accounts with you guys again. Take a look and be inspired.

#1 superfoodrunner
Lexi and Beth, mother and daughter, practically make us drool! They share yummy recipes and stunning pictures of plant based food! A must follow if you want to be inspired in the kitchen-department.

#2 blissfullyliving
Second on the list is our very own blogger, Clara Mo. She studies nutritional science and having a history as a ED-survivor she aspires to help others. Be inspired by beautiful pictures of vegan food, workouts and glimpses of her everyday life.

#3 yogishcollective
Yogish Collective is a lifestyle brand with an ambition to create long lasting, stylish pieces. Their mats and their whole account makes you want to enter the world of yoga – so pretty!

#4 yourhappyperiod
Who knew tampons could be so inspiring? Hihi! The ladies behind the brand Your Happy Period share some girl power on Instagram, definitely worth following.

#5 madeby_danica
Ok, I know it may seem like we are obsessed with food, but we are so please bare with us! And since we love food we of course love madeby_danica’s account! If we could magically make her plates appear in front of us we would!

Do you have any favorite accounts that you think we would like? Let us know by leaving a comment. Sharing is caring!


By: Henriette Danielsen / Photo cred