Something that’s constantly reoccurs in the modern spirituality is the concept of love and fear. That which isn’t love is fear. Love is the ultimate creation and our natural state. When we’re not thinking, feeling, acting and reacting in love, it’s because fear is present.
Fear of being separate. Fear of being unworthy. Fear of not being accepted. This fear makes us act in all kinds of unloving ways, towards each other and towards ourselves. I truly believe this. Even though it’s a simplification of the complexity of this human experience, it explains a lot of the crazy that is going on in our world today.
However, there’s another aspect of fear. Fear as a catalyst. When our aim becomes experiencing as little fear as possible we miss out on a lot of the good stuff in life. Because the good stuff often requires us to face that which scares us.
For me, it was scary to choose to take back the responsibility for my health and become the CEO of me. It was scary to choose to be more vulnerable and not hide in my relationships. It was scary to quit my corporate job to start out on my own. I needed to make a conscious choice to look fear in the eye and walk directly towards it. And, ultimately, facing fear has given me a healthy and vital body back, deep and meaningful relationships and an opportunity to create the career that fits my lifestyle and dreams.
Life thrives when we follow our intuition speaking through love while embracing fear.
What if we could befriend fear and invite it to play a part in our life without letting it play the main character? Because, fighting fear is a dead-end battle anyway. You can’t win that game. What you can do, however, is to greet fear when he shows up, tell him to take a seat, but not direct the show. Listen to him patiently, thank him for the advice, but make sure to follow your intuition, not your fear.
What if the presence of fear has been the ultimate catalyst to all that you love about your life today? What if you can become friends with your fear and start enjoying hanging out with him?