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Time to embrace those darn feelings

Do you ever wake up and just feel “blah”? Don’t feel like doing anything else then watch meaningless TV shows and even that feels unsatisfying? Our emotions vary and our mood swings, but it is how we deal with them that determines the result of our wellbeing.

We can experience a range of emotions; happiness, sadness, anger, confusion, anxiety, you name it. And there are many things that can affect our mood. Hormones, expectations, our inner critic, lack of Vitamin D or simply the fact that some brains are more sensitive to the effects of stress then others and can end up giving you the blues. Life is like an eternal rollercoaster. Some days you wake up all bubbly and happy, the next you might feel sad or angry. And when we feel out of sorts we often avoid our negative emotions. Hide them, stuff them away in the back of our emotional closet, hoping they will go away.

But as it turns out; negative emotions don’t harm you. It’s your resistance that does.

Not sure you know what I am talking about? Well, let me ask you this: have you ever been afraid of being unhappy, sad or depressed? Have you ever tried to stop yourself from feeling insecure or anxious? Ever resisted grief, shame or guilt?

The more you allow your feelings to be, the easier it is to let them go.

Resisting “bad” feelings actually intensifies them. The best way to heal your emotions is to embrace them. But how the heck do we do that?

Observe
When a negative emotion rises to the surface, try to observe. You don’t need to act on it, just acknowledge it and most importantly, feel it.

Accept
It is what it is. Love it or hate it, but at least embrace it. You can´t (and shouldn’t) change it. A negative emotion will not last forever and most certainly not define you, so worry not. Try to accept that it is what it is.

Release
Feel like crying or screaming, do so. Want to hit something, do it (something, not someone though). Want to talk about it, turn to a friend. Want to work through it, write it down. Whatever releasing it means to you.

Negative emotions are a natural part of who you are and with that awareness you will more likely respond to whatever is aroused in your behaviour. Accept that life is not perfect and you will feel so much better.


By: Henriette Danielsen

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Innsider tips: Personal Power

This month our four amazing coaches are giving you some pointers to make this year your best one, and second one up is Helena Önneby.

Helena is a certified Career Coach, HR professional and author of the book Pure Personal Power – Tools to collect on a healing journey. She’s on a mission to help you find your personal power by taking full responsibility for your life and health; body, mind and soul.

Here’s her five tips for more personal power:

Practice self-love
To access your personal power, you need to take full responsibility for your life. This requires a lot of self-compassion. You’re not meant to judge yourself for anything in your life, you’re meant to take ownership of your circumstances so you can find the power you need to change whatever you want or need to change. A self-love practice looks different from person to person, but it could involve writing down things you appreciate about yourself, taking the time to do what your body loves or saying no to others so that you can say yes to yourself.

Shift your focus to what is working
We tend to keep our focus on what we feel lack in our lives. What we don’t yet have, what we wish would be different or what we envy in others. When you shift your focus to all the abundance in your life you not only feel better, you also create the momentum for more of it in your life. Start a simple gratitude practice, where you every morning and every night write down three things that you’re grateful for; my bed, my lungs that breathe, that smile from my friend today, a warm cup of tea, that I feel safe, how my body feels when it moves, fresh flower.

What you focus on grows.

Explore spirituality
Religion sometimes get a bad rep in our society today. But what if you could believe in something bigger than yourself and a meaning to everything that has happened in your life without subscribing to any of the major religions? What does a higher power of your own understanding look like? What if you would allow yourself to explore what that means? Maybe you would find a lot of power in the guidance that is always provided to you and relief in the meaning you see in your challenges in life. It has brought you here, and you are exactly where you need to be right now.

Deal with your emotions
Find the tools that works for you when it comes to dealing with your emotions. We’re feeling machines with an intellect so emotions will for sure effect our lives in major ways. But as long as you’re unaware of them they have power over you. Develop a practice of dealing with and really feeling your feelings, not just thinking them. Flow write first thing you do in the morning, invite your feelings to say what they came to tell you and meditate to create some space between you and them, because, you are not your emotions, you have them.

Take care of your body
We’ve been given one tool to express ourselves in this lifetime, and that is our body. Take care of it the way it takes care of you every day. When you take care of your body and listen to its needs it will serve you. But if you neglect it, its signals and needs it will soon take from your power in order to stay in balance. Nourish it with clean food, move it every day and let it rest when it needs resting.

Personal power is about living up to your own potential so that you can do what you’re here to do and help make the world an even more loving place. Go on your own exploration to tap more of your personal power.


By: Helena Önneby /Photo cred: Pinterest 

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Vulnerability: driving force or nemesis?

Vulnerability is defined as the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally. 

Tempting right? We think not. Who would you want to be put in a position where you could potentially get hurt? Isn’t human nature to survive no matter what?

But then we ponder on Brené Brown’s quote:

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.

One can argue that by building walls around you will protect the person you are today, but prevents you from becoming the person you could be tomorrow. By building walls you’re building your own prison. A golden one maybe, but a prison nonetheless. It’s only by letting people in, trying and experiencing that you will learn about who you truly are, tune in with yourself and develop.

But where is the limit? When does vulnerability get in the way of growth, of innovation and creativity?

When focus is lost. When in the scheme of it all you lose your purpose in all the physical and emotional stimulations. When you lose yourself in the whirlpool of the new and the exciting whether it is a project or people.

Like everything else in life, balance is in order.


By: Morgane Oléron