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Don’t be the lady in waiting

Why and what are we waiting for?

Back in the days, under a monarchy, there were the ladies in waiting. Waiting for the Queen to decide their every move. There to please and serve. Not quite a servant, not a noble. Just there, waiting in between. Forever in limbo.

Today Queens are more symbolic than anything, but we find other things to rule over us. Don’t we all still just wait for something?

Whether it is for the end of the day, for lunch time, for happy hour, for the weekend or for the next vacation.

But what about the time in between? Is it completely lost and worthless to us? Are we in limbo?

Such a waste. All those hours, days, weeks. Like going on a road trip and only getting out of the car at the end destionation. Missing out on all the fun that could have been on the way.

By constantly trying to look over the top of the hill we stumble on our own feet. Look around you, take it all in, that is your best way to prepare for what is coming next.

“What day is it?”
It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
My favorite day,” said Pooh.”

Every time you find yourself longing for something that will come, try to focus on something that is now. Your breath, the way your body feels, the sounds around you, the air on your face, the taste on your tongue. Immerse into them. Remember that what you feel and hear now will soon be gone and that you are now shaping the future you are so badly waiting for.
Don’t wait. Be.


By: Morgane Oléron 

 

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Fear is my friend

Something that’s constantly reoccurs in the modern spirituality is the concept of love and fear. That which isn’t love is fear. Love is the ultimate creation and our natural state. When we’re not thinking, feeling, acting and reacting in love, it’s because fear is present.

Fear of being separate. Fear of being unworthy. Fear of not being accepted. This fear makes us act in all kinds of unloving ways, towards each other and towards ourselves. I truly believe this. Even though it’s a simplification of the complexity of this human experience, it explains a lot of the crazy that is going on in our world today.

However, there’s another aspect of fear. Fear as a catalyst. When our aim becomes experiencing as little fear as possible we miss out on a lot of the good stuff in life. Because the good stuff often requires us to face that which scares us.

For me, it was scary to choose to take back the responsibility for my health and become the CEO of me. It was scary to choose to be more vulnerable and not hide in my relationships. It was scary to quit my corporate job to start out on my own. I needed to make a conscious choice to look fear in the eye and walk directly towards it. And, ultimately, facing fear has given me a healthy and vital body back, deep and meaningful relationships and an opportunity to create the career that fits my lifestyle and dreams.

Life thrives when we follow our intuition speaking through love while embracing fear.

What if we could befriend fear and invite it to play a part in our life without letting it play the main character? Because, fighting fear is a dead-end battle anyway. You can’t win that game. What you can do, however, is to greet fear when he shows up, tell him to take a seat, but not direct the show. Listen to him patiently, thank him for the advice, but make sure to follow your intuition, not your fear.

What if the presence of fear has been the ultimate catalyst to all that you love about your life today? What if you can become friends with your fear and start enjoying hanging out with him?


By: Helena Önneby. Helena is a life and career coach on a mission to help you find your Pure Personal Power. Download the free guide: 5 steps to finding your authentic power.

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An open letter to Self Doubt

Dear Self Doubt. We’ve been spending nearly 25 years side by side and together we’ve been through a lot. I’m grateful for all the times that you’ve been there for me and never left my side, but lately I’ve been feeling like it’s not working out between us anymore.

I don’t understand why you keep complaining when I’m telling you to shut up. All you ever talk about is how useless I am and how I’ll never succeed with anything in life. I used to believe you, but I’ve come to realise that the problem is not me – it’s you. If you weren’t there all the time with your negative, repetitive chatter, I’d already be bathing in success and self acceptance.

It’s time we face reality – we’ve grown apart. Our views on life have become extremely different.

I’ve decided to spend more time with Self Belief instead. Amongst many things, we’re planning adventures, art projects, chilling out and to continue the exploration of love and relationships.

I simply neither have the time, nor the desire to hang out with you anymore. I wish you all the best and hereby set you free. I understand we might bump into each other again, but in that case I’d like to keep it at a smalltalk level. I hope you take some time to think through your actions and your whole existence, now that you’ll have a lot more time for yourself.

Thank you for the time we had,
Amalia

An unexpected response

Alright, Amalia, I get it. It’s time for us both to be more clear about how we want our friendship to develop. I forgive you for trying to dump me and you don’t need to say thank you for me staying and saving your life.

I feel like I’ve been misunderstood by you. I’ve been trying to get your attention for years but you’ve simply pushed me away without listening to what I have to say. You have no idea how much work it’s taken me to get you to finally listen to me!

First of all: Please, stop calling me Self Doubt. I don’t know where you got that name from but my real name is Fear. Remember that time in Australia when you saw a deadly snake and ran away from it? Yeah that was me saving your life. Or that other time when we were hiking and you were standing way too close to a cliff? Yeah. You’re welcome.

I think you get it: It’s my job to keep you alive! I calculate risks and talk about them, and I’ll keep going until we both get old and grey, so deal with it.

Secondly: Self-acceptance is not about denying or ignoring parts of yourself that you don’t like. It’s about making friends with them. Also, everyone fears in life. It’s not like the people you find “successful” are completely fearless. (Whatever the heck “success” means to you anyway?) They’ve just managed to build a beautiful, trustful relationship with their own Fear.

You’ve been extremely boring lately – you haven’t done much that is new or exciting. As a result, I’ve had to calculate risks of things that normally wouldn’t be a threat. Don’t blame me for being repetitive! That’s just a result of your boringness.

I think it’s a great idea that you hang out with Self Belief. Finally! We might actually get some action going again!! Don’t mind me – I’ll stick around and make sure you’re both safe. Trust me, when there’s real danger facing us you’ll know I’m serious.

I’ll be here for you whenever you need my advice.

Love you,
Fear


By: Amalia Wahlström/Repost of original post at ohyeahbyamalia.com

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How to overcome excessive worry?

We all worry and that is natural, because life puts ahead of us new challenges and tasks that we have to solve each day. By worrying we show that we care about our work, family, friends and ourselves.

Moderate concern is very useful, because it can protect us from the various inconvenience that we may face on a daily basis. If we are, for example, worried that we will be late for an important meeting, we can undertake a range of activities to prevent that from happening (we can get up and get ready earlier, leave home earlier in order to avoid traffic etc.) Excessive or chronic worry on the other hand is both physically exhausting and significantly affects the quality of our lives. If we worry to much, we encounter some of the following phenomena’s daily:

  • We imagine negative outcomes of different situations and we experience anxiety because of our own negative thoughts.
  • We worry often about things that we can’t change.
  • We are becoming more and more indecisive and we are making decisions more and more slowly, because we are constantly looking for an ideal solution to the situation.
  • Worry becomes a burdensome process that is difficult for us to control and which causes tension, anxiety, tiredness, concentrations and sleep problems.

So, how we can overcome excessive worry since it doesn’t bring us anything good?

I will give you some of my favorite tips that all of us can use when we feel that we have fallen into the trap of our own bad thoughts:

  • When we worry too much the capacity of our attention is limited and most of the time we focus on negative outcomes. Because of that, we aren’t able to notice the favorable opportunities provided to us. By systemically focusing our attention on positive things, we can reduce the time spent on worrying and see that life gives us a lot of good things.
  • We need to determine every day in advance the time and place when we worry. All bad thoughts, unnecessary analysis and fears that appear to us during the day we leave for ’the time when we worry’. This is a great technique, because this way we gradually gain control of our thoughts and become more and more focused on the present.
  • Life is unexpected and all of us have to accept that, even if this sounds a little scary. With excessive worry we can’t influence every aspect of our lives. Once we accept that we can’t control everything, our life will become so much easier.

Whenever you notice that you worry too much, try to apply these techniques in order to help yourself clear your head from negative thoughts. Your life is happening now and don’t miss it by worrying about the future or the past.


By: Sonja Josipovic / Photo cred: www.verywell.com