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Time to embrace those darn feelings

Do you ever wake up and just feel “blah”? Don’t feel like doing anything else then watch meaningless TV shows and even that feels unsatisfying? Our emotions vary and our mood swings, but it is how we deal with them that determines the result of our wellbeing.

We can experience a range of emotions; happiness, sadness, anger, confusion, anxiety, you name it. And there are many things that can affect our mood. Hormones, expectations, our inner critic, lack of Vitamin D or simply the fact that some brains are more sensitive to the effects of stress then others and can end up giving you the blues. Life is like an eternal rollercoaster. Some days you wake up all bubbly and happy, the next you might feel sad or angry. And when we feel out of sorts we often avoid our negative emotions. Hide them, stuff them away in the back of our emotional closet, hoping they will go away.

But as it turns out; negative emotions don’t harm you. It’s your resistance that does.

Not sure you know what I am talking about? Well, let me ask you this: have you ever been afraid of being unhappy, sad or depressed? Have you ever tried to stop yourself from feeling insecure or anxious? Ever resisted grief, shame or guilt?

The more you allow your feelings to be, the easier it is to let them go.

Resisting “bad” feelings actually intensifies them. The best way to heal your emotions is to embrace them. But how the heck do we do that?

When a negative emotion rises to the surface, try to observe. You don’t need to act on it, just acknowledge it and most importantly, feel it.

It is what it is. Love it or hate it, but at least embrace it. You can´t (and shouldn’t) change it. A negative emotion will not last forever and most certainly not define you, so worry not. Try to accept that it is what it is.

Feel like crying or screaming, do so. Want to hit something, do it (something, not someone though). Want to talk about it, turn to a friend. Want to work through it, write it down. Whatever releasing it means to you.

Negative emotions are a natural part of who you are and with that awareness you will more likely respond to whatever is aroused in your behaviour. Accept that life is not perfect and you will feel so much better.

By: Henriette Danielsen

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Those five little words

“I am happy for you”. The art of rejoicing in someone else’s success and happiness is easier said than done.

It´s easy to feel happy for someone when you find yourself in a good state of mind. It´s also a piece of cake to clap for someone’s success when they accomplished something within a field that is not the same as yours. But cheering for someone who achieved something you wish you had, that is the real challenge.

I grabbed a coffee with an old friend last time I was in Paris and we cheered for her recent success of getting into the best school in the country. I found myself being genuinely proud and happy for her. I recognised her hard work and dedication and felt it was more than deserved. Not an ounce of jealousy or frustration in sight. We shared a lovely moment rejoicing in her little happiness cloud and as we said goodbye I felt I took a little piece of that cloud with me. I had a smile on my face, thinking how lovely it is to see hard work being rewarded and feeling at that very moment that everything was how it should be.

But what if I had been depressed that day? What if I had tried and failed at the same exam? That would have been a very different story. I would probably have received her happiness as an aggression. Seeing it as reflexion of my own failure. I know this because it has happened before. But I also know it is not justified.

Others’ successes or failures are in no way related or proportional to yours.

You are responsible of your actions and life and they are of theirs. It makes absolutely no sense to feel better to see your friends fail where you also failed. On the contrary. To progress and grow you need to surround yourself with people who will challenge you, push you forward, not drag you down.

Again, easier said than done. We know all that, and it looks great on paper, but controlling your feelings is something that demands practice, dedication and awareness, knowing yourself and more importantly being very honest with yourself, admitting and recognising your feelings to then be able to act on them.

Definitely something worth working on though, for ourselves and our entourage, because happiness is contagious. Catch it. Spread it.

By: Mo Oléron