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A grateful heart – love letter from our Editor in Chief

1 of December will always be a special day for me, because that is the day Best of You was introduced to the public. Two years have passed and so much has happened on this beautiful journey.

Best of You has developed from being a blog to become a community where we inspire each other to embrace life wholeheartedly and find joy in health and wellness. A place without diets, rules or regulations, nor a formula to fit in with the masses.

We want you to find what feels good and be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.

And seeing that you do, makes me forever grateful.

The emails, the kind words, the hugs, the tears, the love: everything that you share with us makes this the best job in the world. And why waste time on being anything but fully alive?

Thank you for following, showing up at our events, for booking our services and for welcoming us into your lives. We are forever grateful and excited for the future. 2018 will bring much love, that’s for sure.


By: Henriette Danielsen, Editor in Chief / Photo cred: Pinterest

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Sprinkle the love

Having a bad day? What better way to brighten it than receiving some good vibes from the people around you? Or even better; spread some positive vibes yourself.

There is little out there making me happier than seeing people sprinkling some love. Except dogs, dogs make me all mushy and in love. Nevertheless, my point is; simple acts of kindness, like smiling at others, helping a stranger or hold the door for someone, are small actions that do not require great power, but that can give so much to those who receive.  And being compassionate does not only benefit others, it is also good for your own health. It actually improves your mood too.

So here are five simple, yet impactful ideas how you can sprinkle some love and emit good vibrations:

Greet people
“Hey, I already do that”, you might think! A basic rule of courtesy, right? I am not only talking about greeting your partner, colleague or friend. I am talking about your neighbour, the busman, the old lady in the line at the bakery. Most of us are so stressed or so lost in our phones, we often don’t even notice the people around us. So, lift your head and greet people with either a warm look, a soft smile or a loud “good morning”.

Smile
Always smile to the people you meet. Whether it is a stranger walking by you in the street or the stressed man at the post office. A smile always creates positive feelings and is very contagious! And we´re not talking a polite, half ass smile, I am talking about the kind of smile that makes the corner of your eyes crinkle slightly and your lips curl upwards. What the heck, why not go crazy and even laugh a little.

Applaud others
Applaud the achievements of others! Impressed by your colleagues Power Point presentation? Tell him/her. Did your friend get an A on his/her assignment, take a round of applause. By applauding the achievements of others, you make others feel appreciated and seen, which in return generates a positive feeling.

Listen without interrupting
Ever been to a meeting and a colleague or your boss interrupts you, mid-sentence? Or been at a social gathering, eagerly sharing a story, when suddenly somebody interrupts you?  I think if we are honest with ourselves, we can find times we even did that to others too. Learn to listen without interrupting. It makes a person feel good and important, which again creates a positive vibe.

Share genuine compliments
See a lady at the store in a nice dress, tell her! Envy someone’s beautiful hair, tell them. Meet someone who has a cute dog (yep, sorry can’t seem to let the dog go), compliment them on their cutie pie. Buy a coffee at the coffee shop and think it tastes good, tell the barista. Complimenting someone is so simple, yet we do it so little. At least to strangers.

So, greet the day and sprinkle some love! The world definitely needs more of it <3

PS; You rock!


By: Henriette Danielsen

Be Inspired

Fear is my friend

Something that’s constantly reoccurs in the modern spirituality is the concept of love and fear. That which isn’t love is fear. Love is the ultimate creation and our natural state. When we’re not thinking, feeling, acting and reacting in love, it’s because fear is present.

Fear of being separate. Fear of being unworthy. Fear of not being accepted. This fear makes us act in all kinds of unloving ways, towards each other and towards ourselves. I truly believe this. Even though it’s a simplification of the complexity of this human experience, it explains a lot of the crazy that is going on in our world today.

However, there’s another aspect of fear. Fear as a catalyst. When our aim becomes experiencing as little fear as possible we miss out on a lot of the good stuff in life. Because the good stuff often requires us to face that which scares us.

For me, it was scary to choose to take back the responsibility for my health and become the CEO of me. It was scary to choose to be more vulnerable and not hide in my relationships. It was scary to quit my corporate job to start out on my own. I needed to make a conscious choice to look fear in the eye and walk directly towards it. And, ultimately, facing fear has given me a healthy and vital body back, deep and meaningful relationships and an opportunity to create the career that fits my lifestyle and dreams.

Life thrives when we follow our intuition speaking through love while embracing fear.

What if we could befriend fear and invite it to play a part in our life without letting it play the main character? Because, fighting fear is a dead-end battle anyway. You can’t win that game. What you can do, however, is to greet fear when he shows up, tell him to take a seat, but not direct the show. Listen to him patiently, thank him for the advice, but make sure to follow your intuition, not your fear.

What if the presence of fear has been the ultimate catalyst to all that you love about your life today? What if you can become friends with your fear and start enjoying hanging out with him?


By: Helena Önneby. Helena is a life and career coach on a mission to help you find your Pure Personal Power. Download the free guide: 5 steps to finding your authentic power.

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The benefits of growing older

This weekend I realised that I was born to be wild, but only until 9pm or so.

Having left a party before 11, leaving both champagne and friends behind to go home and embrace my bed, I had a little freak out in the cab. I realised my birthday is around the corner and this will be my last year in my 20s. I could feel the anxiety hit me!

Turning 30 is something I am dreading, not because you´re so freaking old at 30, but then there is no way back. No excuses. You are, and will forever be, an adult. An actual adult. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t walk around acting or seeing myself as a child, but no more bad excuses to why you have spent half your salary on fun stuff, no more excuses to why you party a little too much, no more excuses to why you don’t have children, a house, a car, a husband. Dear lord, the pressure!

But having slept on it, I woke up this morning and realised, getting older is inevitable and there are actually some benefits to it.

Like wine, we only get better with time, right?

So, I hereby give you five reasons to look forward to getting older:

Broader perspective
The longer we live, the more experiences we gather and the wiser we get (at least that´s what I have been told). We learn and get a broader perspective on life and the world.

Stronger and more independent
I have always liked to call myself a strong, independent woman, and for each year I feel it gets more and more accurate. I grow more confident and stop worrying so much about what others think of me and just do my own thing. It is like the uncertainty slowly disappears with age.

Saying no
Saying no, without getting a bad conscience definitely gets easier. I dreadfully remember being a teenager, running around from one thing to another, terrified I would miss out on anything “important”. I guess the older you get, the wiser you become and learn that saying no from time to time is healthy.

You get more selective
The older we get, the more often we realise that there is no time for drama, bad friends or an unbearable relationship. I don’t know how often I have thought “I don’t have time for this, I am too old for this sh*t”. And it´s so liberating letting go of the crap and focus on the good things in life instead.

Socially accepted bedtime
There is nothing wrong with a 9pm bedtime guys! There are few things better and more important than a good night’s sleep and the older you get, the more socially accepted it is. Hallelujah!

So, that was it from 28-year-old me, looking forward to senior discounts and enjoying all of the above! My birthday can come now, I am ready to turn one year older!


By: Henriette Danielsen / Photo cred: letsmingleblog.com/

Be Inspired Mind

Letter to myself

Dear myself, when everything you know crumbles, and falls apart. When you think this is the end, that you will not survive this because you just don’t know how, one thing will happen: you will survive.

Because whether you like it or not, whether you want to hear it or not (and trust me, I don’t) life will go on. You will put one foot in front of the other. Maybe you will stumble at first, but you will move forward. Even if it is at such a slow pace that it’s not visible to the naked eye. Because it’s not a choice. It does not matter how evolved we have convinced ourselves we were, we are animals and for thousands of years it has been fixed in our genes that we need to keep on going, find food, shelter and survive.

Don’t get me wrong. You won’t be happy. It will be tough and you will maybe even wonder what the point of all this is. I cannot believe I am quoting that movie but hear me out. In “Sex Tape” with Cameron Diaz and Jason Segel, Segel drives his kids to school and his young daughter in the back seat out of nowhere drops some pretty amazing insight: “Why do we keep having all these days and then going to bed at night and then having all these days and then going to bed at night?” Segel answers: “That’s sort of what life is” And her to respond: “But when will it end?” That is a pretty good sum up of how you feel right now. Which is crazy because three or four months back you felt you had your whole life figured out, a purpose, a goal, a raison d’être. You had your struggles, but everything was under control.

You like to think everything happens for a reason, but right now, you wonder what that reason might be!

Today you are not happy. But you put one foot in front of the other, and maybe you will take two steps back tonight when it gets dark and the aftershock of the heart quake that your life suffered will keep coming as you replay everything in your head and in your heart. But as sure as the sun will come up, you will too. And you will eventually find a purpose again, and maybe your hopes and dreams will be fulfilled. Or maybe you need new hopes and dreams, or maybe you just need to change your perspective.

There is only one way to find out: It’s to keep having all those days and going to bed at night.


By: Mo Oléron

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Failure is a bruise, not a tattoo

I remember very well the first time I failed at something I considered important in life. I thought that the whole world would end and that I would never feel good about myself again.

Needless to say, I was very young and inexperienced. If I knew back then that failure is an integral part of life, I could have spared some tears and sleepless nights. But, I needed to fail a couple of times again before that lesson was learned.

Now that I am older (and I hope a bit wiser), I understand that everyone fails. Failure is not something that only happens to “losers”. It happens to the best of us, no exceptions. What makes the biggest impact is how you handle it.

 Don’t let failure define you.

 Look at it like a bruise. It hurts and it may not look that well, but it will pass. Don’t be a victim, but use your failures as opportunities. We learn all our lessons from hard times, and failures can certainly teach us a lot. Take your time to heal, learn what you can from your experience, dust yourself off and get up again.

You will lose some small battles in life, and you will lose some big ones. Life is made of ups and downs so just know that it won’t be that bad forever. Try to focus on the positive and don’t be too hard on yourself. Remember, everyone fails at something, and the only thing that separates fulfilled people from the unfulfilled ones is how they handle it.

So, failures will come and go, but just remember this – you may lose a battle, but as long as you don’t give up, you can still win the war.


By: Ivona Iwarra Josipovic 

Previous Events

Celebrating the Love

On Saturday 13th of May, the Best of You team invited all their friends, partners, sponsors and readers to share an afternoon filled with bubbles, popcorn, chocolate and laughter.

It has been such an honor to be able to present our new and improved concept to such a lovely and supportive crowd. We want to thank all the people who directly or indirectly inspire us everyday to chase our dreams and spread our vision. A huge thank you to our sponsors, Oatly and The Healthy Box, and collaborator Anhs Naglar for helping us create a magical moments for our guests!

Take a look at some of the magic captured on camera.



Head over to Facebook to see more pictures from our event and to keep track on whats up next.
You can also read more about our relaunch in some of the amazing articles and blog posts written about us:
Yourlivingcity.se
Theworkoutplan.se
Cristinacastillo.se


By: Morgane Oléron & Henriette Danielsen / Photo cred: Sean Choi Photo
(And one or two borrowed images from Marie Emre & Cristina Castillo)

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Do self-help books actually help?

They are no longer hidden in the back corner of the book store. Today self-help books are a huge business and offer to solve pretty much any problem. The only question is – do they really help?

I can’t really recall when I bought my first self-help book. I’m a big fan of reading, but this selection was unknown to me until sometime in my mid-twenties. Books were a magical escape into a new world and I had not seen them as something offering a solution to my life problems. Then one of my friends recommended one of his favorite self-help books and my bookshelf became home to more and more titles that promised to improve my life in one way or another.

As I read, I started noticing something; First, none of these books offer magical solutions, because there are no magical solutions in life. Secondly, they can’t do much, other than to inspire you to take actions that will lead you to the desired outcome. And thirdly, just reading them without implementing their messages won’t get you anywhere. However, getting a book that will help you with your problems is a step in the right direction as you’re taking action and you are willing to make some changes.

What I noticed from my personal experience is that in order for the books to help, you have to read them with an open mind. You may feel tempted to roll your eyes every once in a while, but try to stay open minded.

It took me a while to understand that knowing something and actually doing it are two different things.

That’s why these books work more as reminders and a source of inspiration and will hopefully give you the little push you need in the right direction. That is also why I like to come back to them, to make sure I stay on the right track and I don’t forget to apply the wisdom to my everyday life. It has no use if it stays on the pages.

I guess my point is that self-help books can, like any other books, be good or bad. Some authors are better than others and some you may not like at all. If you decide to give them a chance, research a bit before you click ‘add to cart’. Also, be open-minded. In my case self-help books helped me learn some things and they helped me improve my life to the extent of how much I worked on it. And for me, there will always be more room on my bookshelf for new self-help titles. After all, life is a work in progress.


By: Ivona Iwarra Josipovic / Photo cred 

Stories

True Girl Power

When I was invited to a closed group on Facebook called “Heja Livet” I got curious. Little did I know at the time how much it would change my view on women, sisterhood and true girl power! All thanks to Emely Crona Stenberg and Caroline Levy!
By: Henriette Danielsen Photo: Heja Livet

“Heja Livet” (read; Go life) is a platform and forum for female members only, addressing all areas of life; Career, health, friendships and daily obstacles, big and small. A place where women can boost each other, inspire, share and create beautiful relationships.

The idea came when Emely Crona Stenberg, after many years in the PR-business, got an eye opener.
– During my time as a PR consultant I often worked in groups, mostly with women, where we for weeks at a time could have daily contact in form of inspiring emails and motivational or appreciative texts. But after every completed project it was as if our “friendship” never existed, Emely explains.

There were no more “good mornings”, emails or texts and if she met them at events they avoided her gaze. This made Emely realize that the climate between women needed a change.
– I wanted to change the competitive way of thinking and addressing prejudices about women in the groups. Explore what would happen if we gather a bunch of women of different ages on the same platform. Today I know what the secret ingredient is: Trust, Emely says.

So she reached out to her friend Caroline and together they started “Heja Livet”. What started as a group of about 100 friends, quickly turned into more than 13 000 members. And it continues to grow at high speed.
–  I would never have dreamed of this amazing response. It’s wonderful to see how all the women lift each other, help one another, share advice and show solidarity, Caroline says.

There’s never any bullying in our group. Constructive criticism? Yes. Hatred? No.

And “Heja Livet” is without a doubt the definition of girl power! The group creates opportunities in all areas of life and accommodations, jobs, friendships, mental health and illness are popular topics in the group (and the areas where the girls support each other the most).  And there is never a bad word to be found.
– There’s never any bullying in our group. Constructive criticism? Yes. Hatred? No. We trust our members and they trust us. We stand for openness and honesty, ambition and community. That’s how we break the prejudices about “women in groups”.

Why do you choose to have a closed group then?
– So we can ensure that we only have female members. Hence, we must approve membership. We are confident that the group’s success is because you feel sufficiently safe in the group to really open up, which couldn’t have been achieved in the same extent if men were present. It may sound harsh, but it’s true. And it’s important to emphasize that we don’t trash men in our group. Quite the contrary; This is a place to talk about oneself, each other, life and sisterhood without being political, radical or hateful, Caroline explains.

And this is only Emely’s and Caroline’s side project, they both work and study full time!
– We’re busy little bees, but our motivation is that we love what we do. Time is what you make of it, and since we both feel that this is something important, for others and us, we just make it work.

The goal for the future is to continue to uphold the platform and give women a place to be seen and heard, and to feel supported and loved. They explain how they would like to maintain the simple and straight communication and the open and honest atmosphere the group is based on .
– We would of course like to earn money and make a living from this someday, but if we don’t we will always keep in our hearts that 20 girls, who didn’t know each other from before got together and spent New Year’s Eve 2016 together. That’s pretty damn awesome, they say and smile.

Fellowship, communities, women empowering women; it gets more and more popular these days, why is that do you think?
– We have been waiting so damn long to be seen and heard and even though we have the right to vote, keep in mind that there are still some countries where women are not. We want to go forward like equals and this is just the beginning. Together we’re strong enough to climb mountains!


Name: Caroline Levy / Emely Crona Stenberg
Age: 29 / 31
Lives: Stockholm, Sweden
What inspires you the most? Many things, but mostly the power of “Heja Livet” and my partner in crime Emely / Loud laughs, honesty, being nice to each other and my beautiful mother who will live in my heart forever.

Check out their webpage here and join the Facebook group here.

Mind

The magic of self-love

We focus on being a good friend, the perfect partner and a loving family member. What we often seem to forget or at least set second, is loving ourselves.

Practicing self-love is often associated with being selfish, but that couldn’t be further from the truth! It will not only help you become the best version of yourself, but will also help you get in touch with your wellbeing and your own happiness.

Not sure on how to practice self-love or what it even means? We give you five simple steps that may inspire you.

Bring out your smile
Each morning when you wake up we recommend you to tell yourself something positive. How lovely you look, how great you feel or compliment yourself on how you handled a situation the day before. It can be whatever, but try to start each day with a positive thought and a smile.

Learn to say no
Feeling tired and not in the mood to go for a drink? Or maybe you don’t want to hang out with a friend or do that extra work your boss kindly asks you to? Learn to say no. It’s not selfish putting yourself first.

Notice how you talk to yourself
Have you made a mistake at work? Not upheld your new year’s resolution or said something you regret? Notice how you “talk” to yourself in those situations. Do you talk yourself down? Do you focus on your weaknesses rather than your strengths? Don’t! Learn to accept yourself, shortcomings and all, and be supportive.

Listen to yourself
Feeling like taking it easy and watch a movie or read a book all by yourself? Or maybe unwind by going to yoga? Learn how to prioritize yourself and take the time you need to take care of your needs. Find what feels good, clear your mind and just appreciate doing something nice for yourself.

Find your own happiness
We often expect others to make us happy and forget that we have the power and responsibility for our own happiness. Stop seeking happiness outside of yourself, long lasting happiness comes from within. The one person you always have to live with is yourself so be able to be happy on your own.

Lastly, remember that practicing self-love does not mean you’re being selfish. It simply means you love yourself enough to take care of yourself, creating your own happiness. You cannot make others happy if you’re not happy yourself first.


By: Henriette Danielsen