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Insider tips: Making 2018 your year

This month our four amazing coaches are giving you some pointers to make this year your best one, and first one up is Sandra Aggemo. 

Sandra is a certified Life Coach, Kids Yoga Teacher, Qi Gong and Meditation Instructor. She is passionate about exploring new things, building meaningful relationships and breathing wholeheartedly. Here are her five best tips for the new year:

Be vulnerable 
Tell someone how you actually feel, break down the walls and be brave in your relationships. Dare to go deeper into them. Dare to say: “Hey, I am not perfect, I lack self-esteem when it comes to networking”, or “I am afraid of talking in front of people”. Simply be more human and dare to say: “I am sorry”. Express yourself and be free.

Just breathe
When feeling upset or stressed: slow yourself down by listening to your breathing. Put one hand under your belly and feel your breath deep down. Just lie or sit, and appreciate your breathing and use the breath as a bridge over troubled water. Guiding yourself into calmness, one inhale and exhale at a time always being with you.

Try not to compare yourself to others
This is a big challenge for many of us! My mantra is therefore: choose love over fear. Fear is always chosen when you compare yourself to others and when you tell yourself you are not good enough. But remember that love is always available. What can I do to feed myself with compassion, not hate? Practice love, not fear.

Open your mind
Meet new people, see people, things, taste your food, take in the smell of fresh air, simply look around you. What new things can you experience today? People to talk to, old friends or new ones. Let yourself talk and listen. Let them teach you and you teach them. Be the teacher and the student, always. Experience the reality and learn about life.

Dance
Process feelings through your physical body, let them transform you into something bigger than your mind. Express yourself. Love what your body can do. Embody your feelings.

Feeling inspired by Sandra and would want to learn more about her services? Take a look here.

By: Mo Oléron and Sandra Aggemo /Photo cred: Pinterest 

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The business of life

In accounting, there is something called “year end closing” to assess profit and loss and retained earnings at the end of the year. Guess what, in life too. 

I have never been a big fan of numbers. I took accounting at Uni and it was all a bit of a blur. But when it comes to life, it makes so much more sense. The only way to go forward and grow is to take with you the lessons you’ve learn in the passed to avoid repeating mistakes and re-apply good practices.

Now that the year is coming to an end, it’s a good time to start looking back and assess. It’s not like you have to sit down with a calculator and a spreadsheet. It’s more about  being honest with yourself about what you felt was a success this year, what failed and what could have been done or handled differently. Some people write it down on paper, some people draw it, others just make mental notes. The form doesn’t matter as much as the substance in this exercise.

If you close your eyes and think back for two minutes, what pops up?

It doesn’t have to be linear either, going from January 1st to today. It might just be about taking up one particular event or situation at a time, it might just be a general feeling. If you close your eyes and think back for two minutes, what pops up: images, smells, colours, gut feelings … acknowledge that. You don’t need to draw conclusions right there and then. Maybe put it aside for a while. Sleep on it and go back to it in the morning. Maybe you’ll begin to see a pattern. Maybe not. Maybe you’ll smile and be content, maybe you’ll feel frustrated. Don’t engage in those feelings. Just observe. No IRS here. Just you.

The only thing you really have to do is to take those observations with you into the new year and adjust accordingly. Just as if you were dealing with a business, make up for losses and perpetuate good practices. And keep in mind, it takes a little while before a business starts making money, be patient.


By: Mo Oléron

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Building up self-confidence

Failures and negative experiences are big challenges for our self-confidence. The good news is that self-confidence can be rebuilt.

It doesn’t happen overnight and it takes energy and patience. We need to say goodbye to old habits and start developing new ones. Negative thinking is the biggest obstacle to building self-confidence. Recognising negative thoughts and turning them into productive positive ones requires a lot of commitment, but is a necessary effort.

Listing our qualities instead of our flaws is a very good exercise. If our self-confidence is already strongly shaken up, we will often have difficulties coming up with qualities or we will feel anxiety or shyness when writing. In that case, it helps to turn to family members, friends or colleagues, who will be quick to remind us how many wonderful qualities there we possess. When our list is finished, a tip is to read it often in order to train our positive memory!

A lack of self-confidence can be a passing phase in our lives which, with a little effort and work, can be conquered. All we have to do is remind ourselves of how much good we really have in us. By being patience and working on yourself you will become a person who radiates self-confidence.


By: Sonja Josipovic / Photo cred: iStock 

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The art of living in the present

How many percent of your mind space are you spending on the past? How much time is spent trying to look into, or plan for, the future? How often are you fully engaged in the present? 

When I did this exercise for myself, by observing my thoughts a bit more diligently, I realised that I spend far too much time in the future and not enough in the right now. It’s was a sad realisation but I know I’m not alone in this.

When I’ve finished my workday, and gotten the kids to bed, then I will relax. When we’ve finally checked in to that hotel on our vacation, then we’ll be happy. When I’ve finished my studies, and gotten my first real job, then I will start enjoying life. When I have that partner that truly gets me, then I’ll feel satisfied.

But we all know this; there is no there there.

As soon as we get there we’ll surely find something else to strive for, something in the distant future to long for that keeps us from living in the moment.

So, how do we do it? Move the there to here? Well, I practice being in the presence by noticing the small details in my every day; the taste of the coffee, the way my body feels when it moves, that smile from someone I care for. I also practice gratitude daily. By focusing on the things I appreciate in my life today I help myself staying present with whatever is, without wishing it were different or that I was somewhere else.

Awareness is a skill that we can improve. Meditation helps immensely in getting better at observing what is and noticing our thoughts and feelings so that we can make conscious choices of where we want them to go.

Tomorrow is granted to no one, so how would you live bearing that in mind? What can you do today to feel fully alive? How can you engage more in your current life, feeling the way you want to feel, today? When you do this, you’ll act in ways that will attract what you want also in the future. But that’s not the end goal, the end goal is not in the end at all, it’s in the now.


By: Helena Önneby.  Download the free guide: 5 steps to finding your authentic power.

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Don’t be the lady in waiting

Why and what are we waiting for?

Back in the days, under a monarchy, there were the ladies in waiting. Waiting for the Queen to decide their every move. There to please and serve. Not quite a servant, not a noble. Just there, waiting in between. Forever in limbo.

Today Queens are more symbolic than anything, but we find other things to rule over us. Don’t we all still just wait for something?

Whether it is for the end of the day, for lunch time, for happy hour, for the weekend or for the next vacation.

But what about the time in between? Is it completely lost and worthless to us? Are we in limbo?

Such a waste. All those hours, days, weeks. Like going on a road trip and only getting out of the car at the end destionation. Missing out on all the fun that could have been on the way.

By constantly trying to look over the top of the hill we stumble on our own feet. Look around you, take it all in, that is your best way to prepare for what is coming next.

“What day is it?”
It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
My favorite day,” said Pooh.”

Every time you find yourself longing for something that will come, try to focus on something that is now. Your breath, the way your body feels, the sounds around you, the air on your face, the taste on your tongue. Immerse into them. Remember that what you feel and hear now will soon be gone and that you are now shaping the future you are so badly waiting for.
Don’t wait. Be.


By: Morgane Oléron 

 

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Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick, and pull yourself together

That is what Elisabeth Taylor used to say. So you keep yourself busy, take on projects, say yes to social gatherings and try to balance it all with a smile on your face. But you never slow down.

Even when people around you are warning you, telling you to take care of yourself. You just put on some more lipstick and keep going.

Until you can´t anymore.

And that is usually the wake-up call we need. What a shame we must go so far down the well to only then be able to pull ourselves back up. To give up on the drinks, remove the lipstick, and stop trying to pull ourselves together… To admit it’s ok to let go, go home, go to bed…do nothing.

But when we do, it will bring back strength, it will bring back sanity and eventually, inspiration.

Keep in mind that sometimes the only thing you need on your “to-do-list” is: Take care of myself. And if you are not going to listen to others, at least listen to your body.


By: Mo Oléron