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Time to care for yourself?

Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed trying to do everything for everyone? Pleasing everyone but yourself? You might just have what is called the disease to please.

Disease to please has been around for a very long time and girls are especially prone to it. The symptoms include: taking upon yourself to do everything, trying to help everyone, worrying about what others think of you, stressing about not being able to deliver, neglecting yourself and your desires. The list goes on, and most of us have probably experienced this before, losing sight of our own self while trying to please everyone else.

While it is great to be able to help people and take care of them when needed, disease to please is different. Pleasing others makes us feel good, but it’s often driven only by that reason – feeling good about ourselves. And we are suckers for that feeling as our brains are wired that way. But, when pleasing others and prioritizing them makes us neglect ourselves, even the good feeling wears off.

What I’ve had to learn is that prioritising me doesn’t make me selfish.

Having boundaries and saying no doesn’t make me a bad person. If I don’t take care of me, how will I ever be able to care for others? Have can I be the best version of me if I’m always tired from pleasing everyone else? The answer is – I can’t.

If you want to be truly present and to be there for the people you love and the things that really matter to you in life then you must let go of the idea of pleasing everyone. Once you do, you will have much more time to focus on what matters and to find happiness and validation from within and not from the others.


By: Ivona Josipovic / Photo cred: Unsplash

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Indulge in a little home spa

At times, it’s no secret that our lives get hectic and stressful. There are days, weeks, and even months where life comes at us hard and simply juggling the day-to-day tasks can leave us feeling overwhelmed and caught in a cycle that disconnects our body and mind. This makes it very tempting to drop everything and run off for a day of pampering at our favorite spa for some much needed self-care.

Unfortunately, sneaking off to the spa isn’t a feasible option for many of us. But, all is not lost. Thankfully, with some mindful choices and creative thinking we can bring the spa to us. This is great news, because studies show that setting aside time for self-care improves our overall health, quality of sleep, boosts our immune systems, and even reduces our levels of stress. Nurturing our minds and bodies is a good thing!

Give yourself permission to indulge in some much needed soul therapy and wash away stress with the following 10 home spa hacks:

Get fizzy
Using common household ingredients like epsom salts, cornstarch, baking soda, and a little citric acid you can make your own fizzing bath bombs. For added goodness, add some of your favorite scents or essential oils.

Soak in the tub
One of the easiest ways to bring the spa home is by indulging with a hot and steamy bath. Gather the following items to make this time special and more relaxing: fragrant flower petals, epsom salts, essential oils, white candles, a relaxing playlist, your favorite bottle of wine, and throw in a bouquet or two of your favorite calming flowers. Shut the door and soak away all your stress, anxiety, and worries of the day.

KISS
While treating yourself to a home spa day, make sure to practice mini meditations by keeping it simple and sweet (KISS). Focus on your breathing while noticing all of your senses, such as: the warm water running over your fingers, sunlight on your skin, or the soothing soap scent.

Egg it up
Beat egg whites to develop a foamy skin treatment that is perfect for keeping oily skin under control and it can also be used as a skin toner on all parts of the body. Whip yolks with a dash of olive oil or mayo and a smidge of water to concoct a natural deep conditioning hair treatment.

Give yourself a pedi or mani
It’s important that we don’t forget your hands and feet during your home spa day. Soothe your hands or feet by soaking them for five minutes in a tub of warm water, followed by a slathering of your favorite lotion, and finish with an application of clear nail polish. Within less than 10 minutes you will have great looking hands and feet.

Turn up the heat
It’s the small luxuries that put the “aaaaa” in spa. At home, place your lotion in a large container filled with hot water and throw a towel in the dryer so they will be warmed and soothing. This is an easy way to add a little luxury to your spa day.

Wear a mask
Facials are wonderful, but many of the masks we love are loaded with chemicals and cost a pretty penny. Instead of relying on a store bought option, head to the kitchen and create your own mask using oatmeal, honey, avocado, or yogurt.

Remember your peepers
Soothe tired eyes with slices of cucumber, soaked green tea bags, or even thin slices of potatoes, Simply put them on your closed eyelids for a few minutes to take advantage of the naturally occurring antioxidants to reduce inflammation, puffiness, and constrict blood vessels.

Roll it out
Use tennis balls to roll out knots and tension in your back and shoulders. Put the balls underneath your back while using a pillow to prop your head up and then, roll back and forth to relieve sore muscles.

Schedule “me-time”
Self-care is vital to our well-being so make it a priority by writing it on your calendar and choosing times with limited distractions so you can solely focus on yourself. To make this a reality, wake up early, utilize a child’s nap time, or put the kids to bed early every now and then. Do what you need to do to get some alone time to care for yourself.

What home spa hacks can you recommend?


By: Freelance writer Ashley Smith 

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From couch potato to a more energized self

We have all heard it a hundred times; moving more equals better health. You get more productive at work, you sleep better and you feel more energized and happy. But then there is the hard truth that getting up from the couch is easier said than done. And the gym frightens many of us.  

The good news is that the benefits of physical activity are not restricted to exercise performed only in the gym. There are other steps you can take to increase physical activity that don’t involve hours lifting weights or running on a treadmill.

Simply be on the lookout for little ways to move more.

The small things that can increase your everyday exercise. And you just wait and see; it will do wonders to your overall health!

Use your legs
Get up and start walking. It is as simple as that. Walk to the store, suggest a walking meeting at work if possible, take a Sunday walk with a friend instead of meeting over lunch, get off the bus one stop before home, choose the stairs instead of the elevator. Nothing you probably haven’t heard before, but try it. It really works.

House chores
Cleaning your house or apartment can definitely get your pulse up. Vacuuming, mopping floors, scrubbing the shower, wipe dust, all of it requires movement. And why not add some music and dance around a little while doing it? Makes a boring chore more fun in an instant.

Make time
This is key people. Try to move at least 30 minutes every single day. Might sound a lot, but try to shift the focus of it being something you must do, to something you want to do. Maybe event write it in your day planner, make an appointment with yourself or with others.

Stay motivated
How, you might wonder? Try different things. We have a tendency to stick to what we know and what we are good at, but why not try out new things. Why not give dance class a try, or choose a new route for your Sunday walk? Or why not join your friend for a new activity?  Variation being the key word. And never underestimate the value of the small stuff. As long as you move, your body will thank you for it.

Bring others in on it
Have a family, why not play around in the snow or dance around the house? Have a partner? Why not motivate each other for a little sit up competition? Have co-workers? Why not suggest walking up and down the stairs together, twice a day during your workday? Live alone? Why not call a friend and suggest trying a new activity rather than a movie night?

Don´t limit yourself. Be open for new things and you will see how you will feel better and get more motivated to keep it up. But most importantly; don´t end up punishing yourself if the couch wins over your willpower. Just get up the next day and try again. And remember; start small.


By: Henriette Danielsen

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City Spa Yoga-Premiere Morning

On Tuesday morning, the 6th of March, we had the premiere of our new concept: City Spa Yoga. A morning filled with lots of self-care and self-love.

We started off with a 45 minutes’ yoga class, led by our yoga teachers Ann Solberg and Mo Oléron. A warm and gentle practice, awakening our bodies and welcoming the day. All to the wonderful view over the city from the 8th floor or Clarion Hotel Sign.  Afterwards we enjoyed some tea, a colourful fruit plate and some smoothies, before jumping into the heated rooftop pool and enjoying the spa facilities. It was a morning that soothed our souls and lifted our spirits.

A big thank you to Selma City Spa for teaming up with us, Yogish Collective for brightening up the room with their colourful mats and our sponsors; Spurtee, YogiTea, Burts Bees, DrinkNOA, mymuesli and Weleda for helping us create some wonderful goodie bags filled with love. And lastly, everyone who joined us for a little getaway in the heart of Stockholm.

We will continue to offer City Spa Yoga every Tuesday morning. Why not join us next time? Read more and book your tickets here.

 





Head over to Facebook to see more pictures from our event and to keep track on what’s up next.


By: Henriette Danielsen / Photo cred: Linda Florin

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City Spa Yoga

Discover a fresh and new you with the finest ambiance yoga class, followed by a therapeutic spa experience and healthy fuel for your body. Your very personal getaway in the heart of Stockholm.

Together with Selma City Spa we proudly invite you to our new concept: City Spa Yoga. Every Tuesday we offer you to start your day with a warm and gentle 45 minutes Hatha class, which awakens and energizes the body in a comfortable flowing sequence that deepens the connection between breath and movement. Accessible to beginners as well as advanced students.

Enjoy the healing powers of yoga in the spa before opening hours, with a stunning view over the city and its breath-taking sunrises. Afterwards you will have free access to enjoy the beautiful spa facility, while enjoying a light breakfast of fresh fruits, tea and smoothies. Let your Tuesday mornings soothe your soul, lift your spirits and fill you with tons of love.

PRACTICAL INFORMATION
When: Every Tuesday morning 07:15-08:00. Free to stay as long as wanted to enjoy the drinks, snacks and spa afterwards.
Where: Selma City Spa, 8th floor of Clarion Hotel Sign. Östra Järnvägsgatan 35, Stockholm.
Price: 250 SEK
Registration: Limited spots. Sign up here
Additional information: The classes will be held in English/Swedish and mats will be in place. Included in the price are towels and access to the dressing room with shower, products and everything you need to get ready for work, in addition to a light breakfast served after the class. You will also have free access to the spa to indulge in some self-care before embracing the day.
Instructors: Morgane Oléron and Ann Solberg, both teacher’s part of Best of You´s team, will switch every other week.

For more information contact Best of You at contact@bestofyou.se. Looking forward to meeting you.

Lots of love from Best of You


By: Henriette Danielsen / Photo cred: Charlotte Rehm

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A journey to take back her power

Having dealt with several different autoimmune diseases and finding no cure, Helena Önneby took matters into her own hands. On her journey to take back power over her own life she learned to take full responsibility for her health: body, mind and soul.  Which all led to her publishing the book: Pure Personal Power. 

What inspired you to write this book?
I first got inspired to write this book at the age of 13, after having been really sick for a longer period for the first time. I wanted to write a book about my experience to be able to help others in a similar situation feel less lonely. Later on, when I found a way to heal from the root of the problem, I started blogging about my journey. When I quit my corporate job last summer I finally got the time to write a proper book about it and the tools that I want to share with others.

The book is partly about your journey healing from different autoimmune diseases. Tell us a little about that.
For more than 15 years I trusted my doctors above all else and never listened to my own body’s wisdom or what actually made sense. About six years ago I was really sick and had collected six different diagnosis over the years. The doctors started calling me “autoimmune” and I realized there was a link between all of the different diagnosis and wanted to know more. When no one in conventional medicine could answer my questions, I found my own path in functional medicine. So often we shut off the fire alarms (the symptoms) instead of extinguishing the fire (the root cause of the disease). In functional medicine you do just that, find the root cause and start the healing from there.

How would you say this has affected you and this book?
What started as a physical healing journey soon turned in to something much bigger than that. I realized I had to work on my self-worth, dealing with fear and stress, and start focusing on identifying with what was healthy in me and being grateful for that.

What do you hope to achieve with your book?
I hope this book will be what I so desperately needed when I had lost all my power; being caught in victimhood and trusting everyone else but myself. I want it to be a guide for anyone who has lost the power over their life.

Personal power is authentic power. It’s the source of your strength!

What is true personal power to you?
Personal power is authentic power. It’s the source of your strength and you can tap it once you start taking responsibility for your life and everything in it. It lives within all of us and it’s when we live in our power that we can create the life that we truly want and the world that we want to live in.

How do you help others on their journey to find true personal power?
Today I guide people to find their power by coaching, mentoring, teaching and writing. I’m on a mission to help people live up to more of their potential by living a more authentic life.

You are worth living the life of your dreams!

How does self-love and personal power connect?
When we love ourselves we also believe we are worthy. If we don’t believe we are worthy we will always resist our power and block our own self-expression. You are worth living the life of your dreams!

What is true health to you?
True health is holistic health. It’s about body, mind and soul. They are all intertwined, and they need to balance for us to find true health. There is no one size fits all or quick fix, it’s a life long journey of trusting, listening and adjusting when we need too.

Helena is as a coach, writer and teacher on a mission to help you find your personal power. After more than 10 years in corporate HR, she now supports people to live up to more of their potential. Are you curious about how you can take back power over your life? Order the book or book a session with Helena.


By: Henriette Danielsen / Photo cred: Olliver Photographers/ Marie Olliver

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Innsider tips: Personal Power

This month our four amazing coaches are giving you some pointers to make this year your best one, and second one up is Helena Önneby.

Helena is a certified Career Coach, HR professional and author of the book Pure Personal Power – Tools to collect on a healing journey. She’s on a mission to help you find your personal power by taking full responsibility for your life and health; body, mind and soul.

Here’s her five tips for more personal power:

Practice self-love
To access your personal power, you need to take full responsibility for your life. This requires a lot of self-compassion. You’re not meant to judge yourself for anything in your life, you’re meant to take ownership of your circumstances so you can find the power you need to change whatever you want or need to change. A self-love practice looks different from person to person, but it could involve writing down things you appreciate about yourself, taking the time to do what your body loves or saying no to others so that you can say yes to yourself.

Shift your focus to what is working
We tend to keep our focus on what we feel lack in our lives. What we don’t yet have, what we wish would be different or what we envy in others. When you shift your focus to all the abundance in your life you not only feel better, you also create the momentum for more of it in your life. Start a simple gratitude practice, where you every morning and every night write down three things that you’re grateful for; my bed, my lungs that breathe, that smile from my friend today, a warm cup of tea, that I feel safe, how my body feels when it moves, fresh flower.

What you focus on grows.

Explore spirituality
Religion sometimes get a bad rep in our society today. But what if you could believe in something bigger than yourself and a meaning to everything that has happened in your life without subscribing to any of the major religions? What does a higher power of your own understanding look like? What if you would allow yourself to explore what that means? Maybe you would find a lot of power in the guidance that is always provided to you and relief in the meaning you see in your challenges in life. It has brought you here, and you are exactly where you need to be right now.

Deal with your emotions
Find the tools that works for you when it comes to dealing with your emotions. We’re feeling machines with an intellect so emotions will for sure effect our lives in major ways. But as long as you’re unaware of them they have power over you. Develop a practice of dealing with and really feeling your feelings, not just thinking them. Flow write first thing you do in the morning, invite your feelings to say what they came to tell you and meditate to create some space between you and them, because, you are not your emotions, you have them.

Take care of your body
We’ve been given one tool to express ourselves in this lifetime, and that is our body. Take care of it the way it takes care of you every day. When you take care of your body and listen to its needs it will serve you. But if you neglect it, its signals and needs it will soon take from your power in order to stay in balance. Nourish it with clean food, move it every day and let it rest when it needs resting.

Personal power is about living up to your own potential so that you can do what you’re here to do and help make the world an even more loving place. Go on your own exploration to tap more of your personal power.


By: Helena Önneby /Photo cred: Pinterest 

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A beginners guide to meditation

Meditation can feel intimidating to those who haven’t tried it before! The great thing about meditation is that it is something that anyone can do, almost anywhere.

There are a ton of different ways to meditate — there are even apps that walk you through it. One I’m trying at the moment is Headspace. Not only that, but there are a ton of health benefits to meditation;

  • Lower blood pressure
  • Improved blood circulation
  • Lower heart rate
  • Less anxiety
  • Less stress

At the beginning of each morning, or at the same time every day, try just sitting still for two to five minutes.  Sit wherever you’re most comfortable and practice deep breathing. There are a lot of mantras available to read to see if one resonates with you.

It’s also fine to practice staying present, count your breaths, and try to remain aware of how your body is feeling. If you sense an area feels more tense, try to release the tension and relax the muscles. Zenhabits also has a great guide on different ways to start meditation that I highly recommend taking a look at if you’d like to learn more.

For now, I hope that meditation is something that you’re excited to try! If you meditate already, what’s your advice for beginners? Let us know in the comments below!


By: Samantha Thayer / Photo cred: Jānis Šaulis /Location: rebirth 

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Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick, and pull yourself together

That is what Elisabeth Taylor used to say. So you keep yourself busy, take on projects, say yes to social gatherings and try to balance it all with a smile on your face. But you never slow down.

Even when people around you are warning you, telling you to take care of yourself. You just put on some more lipstick and keep going.

Until you can´t anymore.

And that is usually the wake-up call we need. What a shame we must go so far down the well to only then be able to pull ourselves back up. To give up on the drinks, remove the lipstick, and stop trying to pull ourselves together… To admit it’s ok to let go, go home, go to bed…do nothing.

But when we do, it will bring back strength, it will bring back sanity and eventually, inspiration.

Keep in mind that sometimes the only thing you need on your “to-do-list” is: Take care of myself. And if you are not going to listen to others, at least listen to your body.


By: Mo Oléron

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The benefits of growing older

This weekend I realised that I was born to be wild, but only until 9pm or so.

Having left a party before 11, leaving both champagne and friends behind to go home and embrace my bed, I had a little freak out in the cab. I realised my birthday is around the corner and this will be my last year in my 20s. I could feel the anxiety hit me!

Turning 30 is something I am dreading, not because you´re so freaking old at 30, but then there is no way back. No excuses. You are, and will forever be, an adult. An actual adult. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t walk around acting or seeing myself as a child, but no more bad excuses to why you have spent half your salary on fun stuff, no more excuses to why you party a little too much, no more excuses to why you don’t have children, a house, a car, a husband. Dear lord, the pressure!

But having slept on it, I woke up this morning and realised, getting older is inevitable and there are actually some benefits to it.

Like wine, we only get better with time, right?

So, I hereby give you five reasons to look forward to getting older:

Broader perspective
The longer we live, the more experiences we gather and the wiser we get (at least that´s what I have been told). We learn and get a broader perspective on life and the world.

Stronger and more independent
I have always liked to call myself a strong, independent woman, and for each year I feel it gets more and more accurate. I grow more confident and stop worrying so much about what others think of me and just do my own thing. It is like the uncertainty slowly disappears with age.

Saying no
Saying no, without getting a bad conscience definitely gets easier. I dreadfully remember being a teenager, running around from one thing to another, terrified I would miss out on anything “important”. I guess the older you get, the wiser you become and learn that saying no from time to time is healthy.

You get more selective
The older we get, the more often we realise that there is no time for drama, bad friends or an unbearable relationship. I don’t know how often I have thought “I don’t have time for this, I am too old for this sh*t”. And it´s so liberating letting go of the crap and focus on the good things in life instead.

Socially accepted bedtime
There is nothing wrong with a 9pm bedtime guys! There are few things better and more important than a good night’s sleep and the older you get, the more socially accepted it is. Hallelujah!

So, that was it from 28-year-old me, looking forward to senior discounts and enjoying all of the above! My birthday can come now, I am ready to turn one year older!


By: Henriette Danielsen / Photo cred: letsmingleblog.com/