Happiness is something that we all strive for, but like most things in life it requires hard work, studying yourself and the world around you. Too many make themselves miserable by getting stuck doing things they do not truly enjoy.
Have you ever had a hobby or a job that you did not particularly enjoy, but didn’t want to quit, because you felt like someone was expecting you to stick with it? Or have you kept on doing something, simply, because you’re already in it too deep, and it wouldn’t make sense or look good to quit anymore?
The challenge is, that it’s quite impossible to know if you really like something before you actually get to try it. Loyalty and shame, on the other hand, make changing your direction later on seem difficult. Those contradicting feelings are usually caused by the expectations we are very often surrounded by—let it be from the society, our loved ones, or ourselves. Neither does it make a difference whether those expectations are actually real or only exist in our own heads. The pressure is real either way.
Another thing that makes many people stay in an unhappy situation, is a fear of wasting resources. Usually that resource is time, but it might as well be the money spent on equipment or education, for example.
Testing different things is crucial, but it’s also important to always analyze how you really feel about something. The more you put yourself in new situations, the more you have to choose from. Giving yourself the permission to dislike something is a great gift and advantage. Every time you clear out something less important from your life, you give out more space for something you truly care about.
Questions to ask yourself:
Why am I doing this? What am I getting out of this? Would I rather do something else?
First and foremost, the only thing you should be concerned about, is the happiness of yourself and the people around you. If the answers you get from those questions don’t seem very positive, you should think about whether or not the activity in question has potential to support or enable something else that really does make you happy. If not, what’s the point? Analyze, analyze, then prioritize.
Everyone has a different kind of conception of happiness, which is why no one can tell you exactly what to do. Be fearless and never hesitate to alter your life based on your interests. It’s never too late to start over.
By: Pinja Papinsaari