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One bad day doesn’t make a bad life

Sometimes when the rain is pouring, it´s important to remember that there is sunshine hiding behind those clouds. And it’s going to shine again.

We all have those days. The ones when nothing goes your way and staying in bed under the blanket might be the best thing to do. Sometimes it’s easier to deal with and other times it can be a real nightmare. But, no matter how bad things may be, it is always important to remember that it’s just a phase, and like anything else in life, it too shall pass.

From stress, to hormones, and things not working out as you hoped, there are many factors that can turn your mood sour. A bad meeting, not getting the job you wanted, traffic jam, family drama, heartbreak – the list can go on and on. Some days it may be none of it. Maybe you are just in your PMS or the Mercury is retrograde and you are not feeling it.

When the bad mood sets in, be extra kind to yourself

When the bad mood comes, with or without a specific cause, it is crucial to be extra kind to yourself. Instead of being harsh, try to be your own best friend. Play your favourite song, treat yourself to some ice-cream, light some candles, get a glass of wine or do whatever it is that gets you to relax.

Cry it out if that helps, or call your best friend and confidant that you know will listen to you and try to cheer you up. Sometimes just talking it out can do wonders. Be extra attentive to yourself and give it some time.

Even when the bad day stretches into two or three, just know that it all must end and better days are awaiting just around the corner.


By: Ivona Josipovic

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Insider tips: courage to start a new chapter

This month our four amazing coaches are giving you some pointers to make this year your best one, and third one up is Christine Nord. 

Christine is a Career Coach with a background in HR & recruitment. Her mission is to inspire and challenge people to find what a truly meaningful career is to them. Whether it’s about how to find meaning in your current job or find the courage to start a new chapter in your life. Here are her five steps to find more meaningful work in 2018:

Are you feeling stuck at work? Or maybe you feel like there should be something more meaningful for you out there? Don’t worry, you are not alone! A lot of people get frustrated from being unhappy at work and there is absolutely no reason to stay put in a job that doesn’t fulfill you.

Accept your feelings
First of all, try to accept your feelings – it’s quite normal and you’re not alone in feeling confused career wise! Most people do it sometime or several times during a lifetime and it’s rather healthy to stop and reflect on your current situation at work. So instead of trying to push these feelings away, welcome them and listen to what they have to say.

Identify your frustration
Has it gone so far that you feel frustrated and maybe even angry or bitter about your current job situation? Believe it or not, that’s great! It might not feel great, but this is what will help you do something about your situation. Make a list of all the things that is frustrating about your current job. Identify the aspects of your current career that does not feel aligned with, who you are and what you are ready to leave behind.

I encourage you to see your frustration as a gift.

Find out where your values ​​and strengths meet
Take some time to reflect on what values are important to you in your life and career. Maybe it’s not status and money that will give you a sense of meaning? Instead, start exploring what values ​​that do matter to you and what strengths you have. What skills and talents have you accumulated during your career so far? Even if you absolutely do not want to work with this anymore, you can safely pick up several of these experiences into a new profession. To do this you can start by asking friends or colleagues about how they perceive you, take online assessments or personality tests or you can start working with a mentor, coach or therapist to start discovering more about who you are and what is important to you.

Take action!
Don’t wait until you have the whole vision ready before you take the first step. A career change can take several months so it’s better to start right away than to wait until you know exactly what you want. Think about what could be your first step to take? For example, you can register for a course and learn something new, contact a friend who inspires you and invite them for lunch or maybe just read an inspiring article. Simply, what practical actions can you do today to get started? Expect to start a snowball effect just starting somewhere.

See your career as a lifelong experiment
In today’s society, we rarely choose one career and then stick to it until it’s time for retirement. You have the possibility to make a new career choice whenever you want! It’s also very common to find multiple and parallel careers, for example you can be both an accountant and a jewelry designer at the same time.

It’s really difficult to try to figure out what kind of career that suits you just by thinking about it, you have to go out and try it! Perhaps you don’t have to switch jobs right away but can find some way to test a new career while still at your current job. If you try to guide yourself by trying to feel as good as possible and find joy in what you do instead of trying to fit in or meet someone else’s expectations, you will have a much bigger chance at finding what a meaningful career means to you. So, go out there and try to look at your career in a more playful and experimental way than many of us do today!


By: Christine Nord 

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A journey to take back her power

Having dealt with several different autoimmune diseases and finding no cure, Helena Önneby took matters into her own hands. On her journey to take back power over her own life she learned to take full responsibility for her health: body, mind and soul.  Which all led to her publishing the book: Pure Personal Power. 

What inspired you to write this book?
I first got inspired to write this book at the age of 13, after having been really sick for a longer period for the first time. I wanted to write a book about my experience to be able to help others in a similar situation feel less lonely. Later on, when I found a way to heal from the root of the problem, I started blogging about my journey. When I quit my corporate job last summer I finally got the time to write a proper book about it and the tools that I want to share with others.

The book is partly about your journey healing from different autoimmune diseases. Tell us a little about that.
For more than 15 years I trusted my doctors above all else and never listened to my own body’s wisdom or what actually made sense. About six years ago I was really sick and had collected six different diagnosis over the years. The doctors started calling me “autoimmune” and I realized there was a link between all of the different diagnosis and wanted to know more. When no one in conventional medicine could answer my questions, I found my own path in functional medicine. So often we shut off the fire alarms (the symptoms) instead of extinguishing the fire (the root cause of the disease). In functional medicine you do just that, find the root cause and start the healing from there.

How would you say this has affected you and this book?
What started as a physical healing journey soon turned in to something much bigger than that. I realized I had to work on my self-worth, dealing with fear and stress, and start focusing on identifying with what was healthy in me and being grateful for that.

What do you hope to achieve with your book?
I hope this book will be what I so desperately needed when I had lost all my power; being caught in victimhood and trusting everyone else but myself. I want it to be a guide for anyone who has lost the power over their life.

Personal power is authentic power. It’s the source of your strength!

What is true personal power to you?
Personal power is authentic power. It’s the source of your strength and you can tap it once you start taking responsibility for your life and everything in it. It lives within all of us and it’s when we live in our power that we can create the life that we truly want and the world that we want to live in.

How do you help others on their journey to find true personal power?
Today I guide people to find their power by coaching, mentoring, teaching and writing. I’m on a mission to help people live up to more of their potential by living a more authentic life.

You are worth living the life of your dreams!

How does self-love and personal power connect?
When we love ourselves we also believe we are worthy. If we don’t believe we are worthy we will always resist our power and block our own self-expression. You are worth living the life of your dreams!

What is true health to you?
True health is holistic health. It’s about body, mind and soul. They are all intertwined, and they need to balance for us to find true health. There is no one size fits all or quick fix, it’s a life long journey of trusting, listening and adjusting when we need too.

Helena is as a coach, writer and teacher on a mission to help you find your personal power. After more than 10 years in corporate HR, she now supports people to live up to more of their potential. Are you curious about how you can take back power over your life? Order the book or book a session with Helena.


By: Henriette Danielsen / Photo cred: Olliver Photographers/ Marie Olliver

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Innsider tips: Personal Power

This month our four amazing coaches are giving you some pointers to make this year your best one, and second one up is Helena Önneby.

Helena is a certified Career Coach, HR professional and author of the book Pure Personal Power – Tools to collect on a healing journey. She’s on a mission to help you find your personal power by taking full responsibility for your life and health; body, mind and soul.

Here’s her five tips for more personal power:

Practice self-love
To access your personal power, you need to take full responsibility for your life. This requires a lot of self-compassion. You’re not meant to judge yourself for anything in your life, you’re meant to take ownership of your circumstances so you can find the power you need to change whatever you want or need to change. A self-love practice looks different from person to person, but it could involve writing down things you appreciate about yourself, taking the time to do what your body loves or saying no to others so that you can say yes to yourself.

Shift your focus to what is working
We tend to keep our focus on what we feel lack in our lives. What we don’t yet have, what we wish would be different or what we envy in others. When you shift your focus to all the abundance in your life you not only feel better, you also create the momentum for more of it in your life. Start a simple gratitude practice, where you every morning and every night write down three things that you’re grateful for; my bed, my lungs that breathe, that smile from my friend today, a warm cup of tea, that I feel safe, how my body feels when it moves, fresh flower.

What you focus on grows.

Explore spirituality
Religion sometimes get a bad rep in our society today. But what if you could believe in something bigger than yourself and a meaning to everything that has happened in your life without subscribing to any of the major religions? What does a higher power of your own understanding look like? What if you would allow yourself to explore what that means? Maybe you would find a lot of power in the guidance that is always provided to you and relief in the meaning you see in your challenges in life. It has brought you here, and you are exactly where you need to be right now.

Deal with your emotions
Find the tools that works for you when it comes to dealing with your emotions. We’re feeling machines with an intellect so emotions will for sure effect our lives in major ways. But as long as you’re unaware of them they have power over you. Develop a practice of dealing with and really feeling your feelings, not just thinking them. Flow write first thing you do in the morning, invite your feelings to say what they came to tell you and meditate to create some space between you and them, because, you are not your emotions, you have them.

Take care of your body
We’ve been given one tool to express ourselves in this lifetime, and that is our body. Take care of it the way it takes care of you every day. When you take care of your body and listen to its needs it will serve you. But if you neglect it, its signals and needs it will soon take from your power in order to stay in balance. Nourish it with clean food, move it every day and let it rest when it needs resting.

Personal power is about living up to your own potential so that you can do what you’re here to do and help make the world an even more loving place. Go on your own exploration to tap more of your personal power.


By: Helena Önneby /Photo cred: Pinterest 

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Time to skip the excuses

Excuses – words we use to justify ourselves. Sometimes it seems that there’s never a shortage of those.

I once read a quote that said: ”If you want something done you find time. If you don’t, you find an excuse”. I’ve been trying to implement this piece of wisdom into my life ever since.

It felt very liberating admitting to myself that sometimes things don’t get done simply because of my laziness, or simply because I don’t prioritise them. Being honest with myself instead of trying to find an excuse felt very satisfying.

I also started implementing this with people. If I caught myself coming up with excuses to justify myself I would stop. Finding excuses felt like such a normal thing to do for so long that it had become a habit and they came automatically. It felt like my brain was on autopilot-mode and I wasn’t in charge. But, once I started thinking about it and recognising the patterns in my behaviour, excuses seemed just wrong. It became clear that anytime I looked to justify my actions, or lack there of, I was trying to fool myself, and others instead of just admitting the truth.

Now, don’t get me wrong. There are many situations out of our control that can come in the way of us doing what needs to be done. Real excuses do exist. Sometimes traffic really is horrible. And everyone can have a hectic day when time seems to fly by before we get to cross everything of our to do lists. Those reasons are legit. When I say excuse I think more of this type – I didn’t wash my hair last night because I wanted to go to sleep early. In reality, I stayed late watching Netflix, so washing my hair wasn’t really a priority. It’s a silly example, but it paints the picture.

So, in the light of the New Year and everyone making their plans and resolutions, how about we all try to do this – more honesty and less excuses. I promise that you’ll feel great about it and others will respect you for it. We can all see through others’ excuses anyway as we’ve all been using them. So, this year let’s find a way and not an excuse!


By: Ivona Josipovic / Photo cred: Pinterest

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The business of life

In accounting, there is something called “year end closing” to assess profit and loss and retained earnings at the end of the year. Guess what, in life too. 

I have never been a big fan of numbers. I took accounting at Uni and it was all a bit of a blur. But when it comes to life, it makes so much more sense. The only way to go forward and grow is to take with you the lessons you’ve learn in the passed to avoid repeating mistakes and re-apply good practices.

Now that the year is coming to an end, it’s a good time to start looking back and assess. It’s not like you have to sit down with a calculator and a spreadsheet. It’s more about  being honest with yourself about what you felt was a success this year, what failed and what could have been done or handled differently. Some people write it down on paper, some people draw it, others just make mental notes. The form doesn’t matter as much as the substance in this exercise.

If you close your eyes and think back for two minutes, what pops up?

It doesn’t have to be linear either, going from January 1st to today. It might just be about taking up one particular event or situation at a time, it might just be a general feeling. If you close your eyes and think back for two minutes, what pops up: images, smells, colours, gut feelings … acknowledge that. You don’t need to draw conclusions right there and then. Maybe put it aside for a while. Sleep on it and go back to it in the morning. Maybe you’ll begin to see a pattern. Maybe not. Maybe you’ll smile and be content, maybe you’ll feel frustrated. Don’t engage in those feelings. Just observe. No IRS here. Just you.

The only thing you really have to do is to take those observations with you into the new year and adjust accordingly. Just as if you were dealing with a business, make up for losses and perpetuate good practices. And keep in mind, it takes a little while before a business starts making money, be patient.


By: Mo Oléron

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Overthinking

You’re lying in your bed and can’t fall asleep. You’re might thinking of an irrelevant conversation that you had during the day, about all the unhealthy food you ate or just about the meaning of life. Does this sound familiar?

We can all fall into the trap of our own thoughts, but if we can’t seem to get out of it we are talking about a phenomenon called ’overthinking’.

If we spend time analyzing everything – how we look, our relations with other people, what somebody told us, what we have told somebody and so on, we must become aware that we might be a bit off track.

You may wonder why overthinking is so negative? Here is why: when constantly questioning ourself, we eventually end up focusing on the negative aspects of our self image. Through such thinking we distance ourselves from our true feelings. Because of the excessive analytics we can easily forget about our authentic feelings and desires, which can lead to conflicts and anxiety.

Although overthinking can be seen as perfectionism, or just a harmless habit, it is not. When overthought, our life seems harder than it is, stressful situations become unbearable and we start to be unable to face new challenges.

To overcome this habit, we need time and patience. Whenever we notice that we are overthinking it is necessary to return to the present moment and focus on what we feel right then and there. This way we are able to come in contact with who we really are, not who we think we are. It is the contact with our true self, the part of us that feels and lives in the present, that brings us the feeling of peace and happiness.

Don’t forget, we will not be able to appreciate the magic of life as long as we are slaves of our own thoughts.


 By: Sonja Josipovic

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Give each moment a chance

We are all going to die. I repeat: no matter what, we are going to die. So why do we keep on living ignoring the elephant in the room? Spending so much time and energy caring about minor insignificant details? Shouldn’t THIS  (inevitable death) be our major concern? 

Ignorance is bliss they say. But I say if you have information you make more educated choices. This is not like hunching your back and looking down at your notebook in class hoping the math teacher will pick someone else to get up and resolve the equation. We will eventually all be called up. Wouldn’t it be better to feel “prepared” then?

One of my favorite singer once sang (roughly translated): “When the sun comes up and I am alive that is all that matters to me”. Grant you he is now a raging alcoholic, but let’s focus on the message here: What truly matters? What is really at stake? To live while we can.

Somehow we manage to ignore death for most of our life because it is “The Voldemort” of our story, “it who must not be named”. We call it something else to reassure us: passing, leaving this earth, departing… it’s like a freaking airport.

Monday, Friday, weekend, those are labels we put on spans of opportunities. Nine to five, happy hours, those are name we gave to slots of possibilities.

They all matter, they all have the same value, but somehow what we call them gives them more or less importance. Mondays are dreadful and Fridays are longed for. But anyone can see through the varnish, those are the exact same days, same amount of hours, same set up, same chances, it is only our mindset that differs, only what we chose to ignore and what we decide to acknowledge.

Things have to be fun, cool, awesome, exciting to matter and the time in between is often considered worthless. But remember, even a boring day at the office is a day you lived.


By: Mo Oléron 

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Fear is my friend

Something that’s constantly reoccurs in the modern spirituality is the concept of love and fear. That which isn’t love is fear. Love is the ultimate creation and our natural state. When we’re not thinking, feeling, acting and reacting in love, it’s because fear is present.

Fear of being separate. Fear of being unworthy. Fear of not being accepted. This fear makes us act in all kinds of unloving ways, towards each other and towards ourselves. I truly believe this. Even though it’s a simplification of the complexity of this human experience, it explains a lot of the crazy that is going on in our world today.

However, there’s another aspect of fear. Fear as a catalyst. When our aim becomes experiencing as little fear as possible we miss out on a lot of the good stuff in life. Because the good stuff often requires us to face that which scares us.

For me, it was scary to choose to take back the responsibility for my health and become the CEO of me. It was scary to choose to be more vulnerable and not hide in my relationships. It was scary to quit my corporate job to start out on my own. I needed to make a conscious choice to look fear in the eye and walk directly towards it. And, ultimately, facing fear has given me a healthy and vital body back, deep and meaningful relationships and an opportunity to create the career that fits my lifestyle and dreams.

Life thrives when we follow our intuition speaking through love while embracing fear.

What if we could befriend fear and invite it to play a part in our life without letting it play the main character? Because, fighting fear is a dead-end battle anyway. You can’t win that game. What you can do, however, is to greet fear when he shows up, tell him to take a seat, but not direct the show. Listen to him patiently, thank him for the advice, but make sure to follow your intuition, not your fear.

What if the presence of fear has been the ultimate catalyst to all that you love about your life today? What if you can become friends with your fear and start enjoying hanging out with him?


By: Helena Önneby. Helena is a life and career coach on a mission to help you find your Pure Personal Power. Download the free guide: 5 steps to finding your authentic power.

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An open letter to Self Doubt

Dear Self Doubt. We’ve been spending nearly 25 years side by side and together we’ve been through a lot. I’m grateful for all the times that you’ve been there for me and never left my side, but lately I’ve been feeling like it’s not working out between us anymore.

I don’t understand why you keep complaining when I’m telling you to shut up. All you ever talk about is how useless I am and how I’ll never succeed with anything in life. I used to believe you, but I’ve come to realise that the problem is not me – it’s you. If you weren’t there all the time with your negative, repetitive chatter, I’d already be bathing in success and self acceptance.

It’s time we face reality – we’ve grown apart. Our views on life have become extremely different.

I’ve decided to spend more time with Self Belief instead. Amongst many things, we’re planning adventures, art projects, chilling out and to continue the exploration of love and relationships.

I simply neither have the time, nor the desire to hang out with you anymore. I wish you all the best and hereby set you free. I understand we might bump into each other again, but in that case I’d like to keep it at a smalltalk level. I hope you take some time to think through your actions and your whole existence, now that you’ll have a lot more time for yourself.

Thank you for the time we had,
Amalia

An unexpected response

Alright, Amalia, I get it. It’s time for us both to be more clear about how we want our friendship to develop. I forgive you for trying to dump me and you don’t need to say thank you for me staying and saving your life.

I feel like I’ve been misunderstood by you. I’ve been trying to get your attention for years but you’ve simply pushed me away without listening to what I have to say. You have no idea how much work it’s taken me to get you to finally listen to me!

First of all: Please, stop calling me Self Doubt. I don’t know where you got that name from but my real name is Fear. Remember that time in Australia when you saw a deadly snake and ran away from it? Yeah that was me saving your life. Or that other time when we were hiking and you were standing way too close to a cliff? Yeah. You’re welcome.

I think you get it: It’s my job to keep you alive! I calculate risks and talk about them, and I’ll keep going until we both get old and grey, so deal with it.

Secondly: Self-acceptance is not about denying or ignoring parts of yourself that you don’t like. It’s about making friends with them. Also, everyone fears in life. It’s not like the people you find “successful” are completely fearless. (Whatever the heck “success” means to you anyway?) They’ve just managed to build a beautiful, trustful relationship with their own Fear.

You’ve been extremely boring lately – you haven’t done much that is new or exciting. As a result, I’ve had to calculate risks of things that normally wouldn’t be a threat. Don’t blame me for being repetitive! That’s just a result of your boringness.

I think it’s a great idea that you hang out with Self Belief. Finally! We might actually get some action going again!! Don’t mind me – I’ll stick around and make sure you’re both safe. Trust me, when there’s real danger facing us you’ll know I’m serious.

I’ll be here for you whenever you need my advice.

Love you,
Fear


By: Amalia Wahlström/Repost of original post at ohyeahbyamalia.com