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Forever a dreamer

Goal setting seems to be a huge trend today. Whether it’s losing x number of kilos, get that certain promotion at work, get more active or get rich. Whatever the goal is, it’s in fact a dream with a deadline, and why add that type of stress to your life?

I have always been a dreamer. For as long as I can remember, I would have these visions of doing and achieving tons of different things in life. I still do. And turns out there are enormous benefits to dreaming often and dreaming big. It for example provides us with a platform for growth and success.

The same goes for goals. Except they come with that deadline.

Just taste the word: DEADline. The word itself is negatively charged. And with a deadline comes pressure, and with pressure the possibility of failure. And we all fail, at some point. And then we get upset, punish ourselves and get demotivated. When we in fact should try to accept it, and ask ourselves what we learned from it. Move on, continue our journey.

 Goals may give focus, but dreams give power

I am not saying goals are bad, but why not embrace dreams instead? Because they come without pressure, timelines and rules. Dreams are all about kindness. Maybe try to get yourself a dream diary, put your dreams down on paper. Visualize and embrace creativity, but without the time pressure.

If you on the other hand love goals and have tons of them; That’s great too! Just remember to be kind to yourself. Because the kinder you are, the more efficient you will be and the better you will feel. Skip the rules of what you MUST and SHOULD accomplish and simply trust your journey. Let what is supposed to happen, happen. Preferably without a deadline.


By: Henriette Danielsen

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From couch potato to a more energized self

We have all heard it a hundred times; moving more equals better health. You get more productive at work, you sleep better and you feel more energized and happy. But then there is the hard truth that getting up from the couch is easier said than done. And the gym frightens many of us.  

The good news is that the benefits of physical activity are not restricted to exercise performed only in the gym. There are other steps you can take to increase physical activity that don’t involve hours lifting weights or running on a treadmill.

Simply be on the lookout for little ways to move more.

The small things that can increase your everyday exercise. And you just wait and see; it will do wonders to your overall health!

Use your legs
Get up and start walking. It is as simple as that. Walk to the store, suggest a walking meeting at work if possible, take a Sunday walk with a friend instead of meeting over lunch, get off the bus one stop before home, choose the stairs instead of the elevator. Nothing you probably haven’t heard before, but try it. It really works.

House chores
Cleaning your house or apartment can definitely get your pulse up. Vacuuming, mopping floors, scrubbing the shower, wipe dust, all of it requires movement. And why not add some music and dance around a little while doing it? Makes a boring chore more fun in an instant.

Make time
This is key people. Try to move at least 30 minutes every single day. Might sound a lot, but try to shift the focus of it being something you must do, to something you want to do. Maybe event write it in your day planner, make an appointment with yourself or with others.

Stay motivated
How, you might wonder? Try different things. We have a tendency to stick to what we know and what we are good at, but why not try out new things. Why not give dance class a try, or choose a new route for your Sunday walk? Or why not join your friend for a new activity?  Variation being the key word. And never underestimate the value of the small stuff. As long as you move, your body will thank you for it.

Bring others in on it
Have a family, why not play around in the snow or dance around the house? Have a partner? Why not motivate each other for a little sit up competition? Have co-workers? Why not suggest walking up and down the stairs together, twice a day during your workday? Live alone? Why not call a friend and suggest trying a new activity rather than a movie night?

Don´t limit yourself. Be open for new things and you will see how you will feel better and get more motivated to keep it up. But most importantly; don´t end up punishing yourself if the couch wins over your willpower. Just get up the next day and try again. And remember; start small.


By: Henriette Danielsen

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Innsider tips: Leadership

In January our four amazing coaches are giving you some pointers to make this year your best one, and last one up is Anna Johansson.

Anna works as a leadership coach and is passionate about your development. Her coaching is about expanding your comfort zone, getting your relationships to work, reach your goal on work, manage your stress level and become a better leader. Here are her insight tips:

Some people claim that certain people “are born leaders”, and that you have to have some kind of specific trait in your personality to be a good leader. Oh well that is true for some, but the first thing you have to understand about leadership is that when you lead you are doing. That means that leadership is an activity and therefor it is something you can practice. As with everything else some people have a natural talent and some people have to work harder to accomplish their goal. But that doesn’t mean them can’t learn.

Start with yourself
To succeed as a leader you have to start with yourself. If you want to perform you have to take care of yourself. The most basal thing you have to have in order is sleep (6-9 hours/day), eating healthy and exercise regularly. I’m sure most of you guys already know this, but if you lack inspiration in this department, Best of You is a really good webpage for information findings regarding health.

Be authentic
Today it is really important to be authentic. So again, start with yourself. Explore your inner motivation, what drives you and what’s of great significance to you? Know your values and your “why”. There are lots of exercises you can do for personal development, just Google or go to my blog ledarskaphalsa.se.

And I just want to add that the idea that you can be one person at work and another person at your spear time is really outdated. What you do at your leisure does affect your work performance and vice versa.

Dare to be vulnerable as a leader!

Leadership is a partnership
You are not the only one responsible for being a good leader, the people in your group also have a responsibility. If they don´t like something or have an idea, make sure that they dare to speak their mind freely. A lot of people complain about their leader instead of taking action to change things. This is something you should talk with your group about. Let them know that you think this is a partnership and you expect them to be open with you. Dare to be vulnerable as a leader and if you are unsure about anything, say so. The team is there to help, remember it’s a collaboration between you guys.

Make a psychological contract
Expectations are SO IMPORTANT. I highly recommend you sitting down with each one in your group and talk about anticipation. Be clear with your expectation on them, and then let them say what their expectations are on you. Be really clear and discuss what this means for both of you, in everyday work and in the long run. This exercise is also good for your authenticity. It gives the group guidelines for in which way you will behave. When they notice that you actually do what you said you would do it builds trust.

Educate yourself
Make sure to educate yourself on psychology and pedagogics. There are a lot of young professionals having high demands on their leader. They won’t tolerate if you don’t have basic knowledge about leadership, relationship, teambuilding, performing and well-being. There are many blogs, YouTube-videos, TED-talks and books of leadership. Here are some I recommend:

  • Book: “Samtal på jobbet” – Kerstin Ljungström
  • Book: ”Creating Effective Teams” – Susan A. Wheelan
  • Book: “Building agreement” – Roger Fisher and Daniel Shapiro
  • Book: “How to Win Friends and Influence People” – Dale Carnegie
  • Webpage: motivation.se
  • TED-talks: Your body language may shape who you are – Amy Cuddy
  • TED-talks: How to speak so that people want to listen – Julian Treasure

If you want to know more about Anna you can follow her on Instagram or you can visit her webpage or leadthefuture.se


By: Anna Johansson / Photo cred: insightsforleading.com

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Time to skip the excuses

Excuses – words we use to justify ourselves. Sometimes it seems that there’s never a shortage of those.

I once read a quote that said: ”If you want something done you find time. If you don’t, you find an excuse”. I’ve been trying to implement this piece of wisdom into my life ever since.

It felt very liberating admitting to myself that sometimes things don’t get done simply because of my laziness, or simply because I don’t prioritise them. Being honest with myself instead of trying to find an excuse felt very satisfying.

I also started implementing this with people. If I caught myself coming up with excuses to justify myself I would stop. Finding excuses felt like such a normal thing to do for so long that it had become a habit and they came automatically. It felt like my brain was on autopilot-mode and I wasn’t in charge. But, once I started thinking about it and recognising the patterns in my behaviour, excuses seemed just wrong. It became clear that anytime I looked to justify my actions, or lack there of, I was trying to fool myself, and others instead of just admitting the truth.

Now, don’t get me wrong. There are many situations out of our control that can come in the way of us doing what needs to be done. Real excuses do exist. Sometimes traffic really is horrible. And everyone can have a hectic day when time seems to fly by before we get to cross everything of our to do lists. Those reasons are legit. When I say excuse I think more of this type – I didn’t wash my hair last night because I wanted to go to sleep early. In reality, I stayed late watching Netflix, so washing my hair wasn’t really a priority. It’s a silly example, but it paints the picture.

So, in the light of the New Year and everyone making their plans and resolutions, how about we all try to do this – more honesty and less excuses. I promise that you’ll feel great about it and others will respect you for it. We can all see through others’ excuses anyway as we’ve all been using them. So, this year let’s find a way and not an excuse!


By: Ivona Josipovic / Photo cred: Pinterest

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Stuck in the holiday spirit?

We’ve all needed to take a break or two, so there is no doubt the Christmas holiday was much needed. But what happens if you take an extended holiday and you have trouble getting back into the swing of things?

You take some time off, you feel relaxed, and suddenly you’re bombarded by life that happened while you were away. Making you feel unorganised, chaotic and flustered. Eventually, you’re stressed to your core and having trouble bouncing back.

I’m here to share some tips to help you getting back after taking some time off:

Go slowly
Go slowly at first. It takes time to build routines, so you better believe it will take time to ease back into them.

Give yourself grace
Have patience with yourself. Everyone has days, weeks, or months where things feel unorganized or maybe you’re struggling to keep up with your day-to-day. Just take a step back, make a list of everything you think you need to work through and how to tackle it.

Make a list
Make a list of low priority, medium priority, and high priority tasks you need to take care of. This is especially helpful when trying to reorganize your home, job duties, and side hustles. Making a list will be a good visual representation of tasks and will help you realize you don’t need to get everything done at once. Prioritising tasks will help them feel less daunting and help with time-management.

Ask for help
Ask for help from a friend, family member, loved one, or colleague if you need it. Others are usually more than willing to step in and help with a few things if you need help just catching up.

Celebrate
Lastly, celebrate your success once you’re caught up and back on track! Exercise with a friend, go to dinner with a family member, or reconnect with someone you haven’t talked to in a while.

I hope this helped you get some ideas for how to get back into routine after a break. Share with us what you like to do to get back into the swing of things when you’ve been away for a while.


By: Samantha Thayer / Photo cred: Pinterest 

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We are what we repeatedly do

Old habits are hard to break and new habits difficult to form.

On that note, let’s stay positive. It is possible to implement new habits and get rid of old ones. It just demands focus and determination.

Many people say it takes about 21 days to turn a daily action into a habit. Other research proves it takes much longer, between 66 up to more than 200 days. At the end of the day though, it all depends on the type of action we are trying to implement as well as our own commitment level and character. So there is really no point of comparing yourself to others.

The only thing to consider is your own check list. Here is ours.

Be realistic
We sometimes are full of confidence and with the New Year we have a rush of optimism and start by putting the bar pretty high for ourselves. If you have never run before in your life, avoid setting yourself up for failure by having as a goal to go running for one hour every day. And don’t overwhelm yourself with tons of new habits you want to put into practice, pick one and see how it goes first. Learn from the journey.

Be organised
It’s not enough to just decide with yourself that starting next Monday you’ll meditate daily. What does that entail? How much time is required? Where can you do it? What is the best part of the day for you to squeeze that time in and make sure you will not have to skip it to prioritise something else? Do your research!

Key word: repetition, repetition, repetition.

Be consistent
Let’s get real people: “Habit formation is the process by which a behaviour, through regular repetition, becomes automatic or habitual”.  Key word: repetition, repetition, repetition. There is no other way to put it, if you don’t repeat, it will not turn into a habit. It’s as simple as that.

Be honest with yourself
Some things will stick, some won’t. Be honest: have you given it your all? Have you really committed? Have you tried long enough? If the answer to all these questions is yes, then maybe you need to give it even more time. Maybe you need to re adjust the parameters: the time of day might be off, the way you are doing it might be wrong (if you are practicing yoga on your own for example, and not doing postures properly you might not feel any benefits from your practice). Do not hesitate to talk to people about your struggle and they might come up with great tips!

If the answer to those questions is mostly no on the other hand, then let’s face it: maybe deep down you are just not that committed. Maybe it was just one of those “New Year, New me” resolution that felt right in the spur of the moment. And that’s totally fine. Once you know something is not for you, there’s no need to waste time! The only judge here is you, the only goal is a better understanding of who you are and how you can enhance your life and even if it often does not feel like it, only you have the answers.


By: Mo Oléron 

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Make winter workouts happen

Once the cold and dark weather hits and the holidays are in sight, our health routines and workouts tend to go out the window, and the lack of motivation is overwhelming.

It happens every year, it is like my motivation is taking a (loooong) winter break and just getting out of the apartment acquires a lot of effort. Not so surprising when you think about it, since it is pitch dark all day long and colder than on the north pole. Guess that’s the disadvantage of living in Scandinavia.

I never regret a workout, it´s simply getting there that is the challenge.

I have however over the years learned some tips and tricks so boost my motivation. Because I never regret a workout, it´s simply getting there that is the challenge. And I guess I am not alone? So, take a look and see if you can´t find some inspiration to get them winter workouts happen.

Buddy up
Create a family or friend challenge and spark your competitive spirit. That way you are not alone and you have fun while getting your workouts done. Maybe the winner gets to choose dinner  or gets a free lunch or whatever sparks your motivation.

Make a new playlist
We keep getting back to this tip, but it truly works! Music has such a motivational impact and sometimes you simply need the right song to get out of the sofa. Try and see what happens!

Work out at home
Seriously struggling with getting out the door? Well, it happens (a lot) and no worries. It doesn’t mean you can´t move your body. YouTube has tons of videos to choose from. Maybe try something new in the comfort of your home? A Fitnessblender session? Or some yoga? Take a look at some of our favorites here. 

Most importantly, be kind
It´s much harder to stay motivated if you don’t take the time to relax and recover. And nothing is more demotivating than setting aside your whole social life just to get those workouts in. Treat yourself with hot cacao, Christmas baking with friends or a glass or two of wine. Be nice to yourself and your body and find the balance.

And remember; a workout doesn’t necessarily mean a sweaty, hard-core workout at the gym. It can be a yoga or Pilates class, a long walk in the fresh air or whatever suits you. Just don’t forget to move that precious body of yours.


By: Henriette Danielsen / Photo cred: Jānis Šaulis / Red long sleeve (sponsored) / Location: rebirth fitness

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Right where I belong

Being Editor in Chief of Best of You, I have been getting to know the health community in Stockholm more and more. Not only in terms of our collaboration partners, but all the wonderful personal trainers, yoga teachers, coaches and brand owners out there. We work together, go to events together and often train together. Which used to terrify me!

I have never been this super fit gym lover, who makes lifting weights and running on a treadmill look as easy as a Sunday stroll to the local bakery. Let me try to explain: I am more the type of girl who gets a mild heart attack after a few meters of running, who is so red in the face that it looks like my period came out of the wrong place and lifting those 2-3 kg like my life depended on it. Making it hard to feel any connection to all those bloggers and influencers out there, promoting health.

When I met all these wonderful trainers and started to get invited to their workouts and events I was terrified. “I am not fit enough for this”. “I am not one of them”. “What the fuck am I doing here”. These where all thoughts running through my head.

But then I realised that this is exactly what we want to change

We want you to know that you don’t have to be fit to join a gym class. You don’t have to be soft and limber to be able to do yoga, and you don’t have to be skinny and have abs to be able to call yourself healthy. You find what feels good to you and a balance based on your life, your body and your needs.

Which is also what inspired me to found Best of You in the first place. Because I love yoga, but I also love wine. I love to work out and sweat, but I also love my relationship to the cookie jar and our late night dates with Netflix. And that doesn’t mean I don’t belong.

Now that I finally have realised that I am no longer afraid to join a kick boxing class, lift those weights or go for a run with someone (all though I prefer not to run, hihi). My point being; don’t think you need to fulfill certain criteria’s to be part of something. You are more than enough and health is for everyone! Coming from the girl who still goes to fitness events being the only one there not being able to do pull ups or hand stands, but still enjoys herself!

So go lift those weights girl, or go to that yoga class you always wanted to try or head straight into the lions cave and join the heavy bodybuilders at the gym. Whatever you prefer, but dont let a label or the thought of not being good enough stop you. Because you rock, with or without abs!


By: Henriette Danielsen / Photo cred: Jānis Šaulis / Location: rebirth fitness

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Q&A with Elin Härkönen

Meet Elin, the positive and energetic girl behind BREAK IT and you will MAKE IT. A girl who has overcome more obstacles than many other her age, showing that giving up is not the answer. And that has become her motto.
By: Henriette Danielsen Photo: Private

Elin is a former athlete in gymnastic, having won several championship titles. But four years ago, she broke her neck after being kicked off a horse during practice. Against all odds, she fought her way back and just recently became the European Champion in OCR (Obstacle Course Racing). But then another accident occurred. Just a few weeks ago Elin was in Canada to compete when she was kicked in the chest by a horse, hospitalised with severe heart injuries.

But Elin is back, and she is so much more than just the girl behind the accidents. We got to meet her in Stockholm for a little Q&A about health, wellness and happiness.

What does health mean to you?
Health for me is about balance, and I truly believe finding a balance that works for you, your personality, goals and ambitions is the key to life. Because balance and health goes hand in hand. If we get too much or too little of something, our health will be affected negatively.

What inspires you?
People who follow their dreams. People who dare to be different and do what they believe in. People who never judge, who are curious and want to live their lives to the fullest. Cause that’s exactly what I am trying to inspire more people to do.

What is your favorite workout? 
Gymnastics on horses. I still miss the feeling of doing handstands on a running horse. But since I must choose something else I would say…. No I can’t choose..A little bit of everything; boxing, gymnastics, running, yoga.

Best part about your job?
I get to help people change their lives to the better. I get to help people overcome fears, do things they never thought they would be able to do.

What are your goals?
My goals and dreams are to make a difference. I want to help people improve their lives to the better. I want to share my knowledge, experiences, mindset and positive personality. Training and health are my passion, so continuing sharing my philosophy through my company BREAK IT MAKE IT. 

What motivates you?
My job, my clients, my friends, my family and of course all the challenges life is full of. I want to become the best version of myself, and that’s a life-long journey. “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. ”


Facts
Name:
Elin Härkönen
Age: 23
Lives: Uppsala, Sweden
Works: as a Personal Trainer and Exercise Specialist in Stockholm

Follow Elin on her blog and Instagram for more inspiration.

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Embrace yourself wholeheartedly

Emotional baggage; we all got it and kind off hate it. Sandra Aggemo on the other hand sees it as a gift and embraces it wholeheartedly. Why? Because she believes that is what makes a person unique.
By: Henriette Danielsen

I met Sandra for the first-time years ago in a small town in Sweden where she was studying Business and Finance. When our paths crossed again a few years later in Stockholm, she had quit her job to pursue her dream of working as a fulltime Life Coach. This awoke my curiosity!

Her whole adult life Sandra has been running from the feeling of not being good enough, even though everyone around her always spoke so highly of her.
– People have always said that I should be happy and proud; “You are such a talent, you have this and that… You have good education, good job, friends”. I could hear them, but I really couldn’t feel what they told me to feel. It was like something was missing, she explains.

Nevertheless, she is thankful for this, because it led her into areas like KBT and ACT (cognitive- behavioral therapy); reading all kinds of books, meeting therapists, doing yoga and meditation, talking to friends about it and finally, finding her path in life and become a certified Life Coach.

– I wanted to use all my emotional baggage to better understand me and my surroundings. To be a Life Coach, for me, is an approach to life itself; curiosity, openness, warm meetings and vulnerability.

But what does a Life Coach do exactly?
– A Life Coach will help you dig underneath the thoughts and feelings of “what if’s”, help you realize what’s important to you and explore those inner voices. Which one is the terrified and playing-it-safe inner-critic and which one is your bedazzling inner intuitive voice? As a coach, I help you clarify and sort it all out. During the coaching-session you are encouraged to find your own answers, your own truth. I have the questions, you have the answers. As a Life Coach, I act as an objective warm hearted friend, support, encourage and challenge you.

Sandra has always loved that spark in someone else’s eye when they realize something about themselves or their life that can help them overcome their fear and find their path.
– I have always wondered what people run from. We are in such a high pace all the time. Why? It’s like we need to finish a race, but the finish line is being moved forward all the time. We sweat and forget to recharge at the water station. One of my answers are that we are running from ourselves, our longings, our feelings.

As a Life Coach, I have the magical opportunity to meet people at the “water station” and help them recharge and/or change direction.

Sitting opposite to Sandra I sense a certain calm aura over her, but at the same time she feels playful and adventurous. She has that look in her eye!
– People often find me both humorous and deep. I truly believe that the most serious things could include laughter and the funniest things could include tears. In my company, you are very welcome to both cry and laugh, she says.

Having built up a client base both in Stockholm and other parts of the country, Sandra sees a recurring topic in her sessions.
– Many of my clients feel stuck, lost or scared of doing what they truly dream of doing. Some have high expectations on themselves and the people around them which causes a lot of disappointment and stress. Some are struggling to understand who they are or just how to be themselves. Some say they have low self-esteem. Some say they don’t know what they like to do anymore. And some clients are extremely happy and just keen on exploring themselves, she explains.

While I listen to her I nod my head, I can indeed relate to more than one of those topics. Which makes me wonder, how do we become happy?
– I believe that the way we today constantly strive for happiness and pursuing our dream is more a happiness trap than anything else. And I have been there myself, always seeking for that good feeling trying to erase the “bad feelings”, striving for that next goal that should fulfil my life.

– I’ve realized that it’s not about seeking happiness or achieving goals, it’s about finding a peaceful way of living. It’s about understanding that we are in constant change and so are our feelings. Happiness it’s not static – a goal does not last forever. I see it as highly important to understand that humans have all sorts of feelings and accept that. A life in joy is not a life without tears, fear or uncertainty – it’s the opposite, she explains.

Before we part ways, we hug goodbye. The last Sandra says to me before she leaves is:
– Maybe happiness is the same thing as self-acceptance, being in contact with the real you and not trying to change everything. Because there is nothing as beautiful as a person being in contact with themselves, without a facade and lots of filters.


Name: Sandra Aggemo
Age: 28
Lives: Enskede, Sweden
One thing that makes me smile: People dancing – being captured in the power of now and the music.

If you want to learn more about Sandra Aggemo and her services you can check out her website and follow her Instagram account.