We all know what it’s like to love another person, whether it’s a family member, a lover or a friend! That feeling of admiration and desire that consumes us, and on days like today we go to great lengths to nurture and show that affection. But what about loving ourselves?
We believe that the key ingredient to finding happiness is learning to love yourself, because being at peace is the very core of wellbeing. And don’t we all want that? To be at peace? Sadly, many of us aren’t, and for many self love is a foreign concept.
Research shows that around the world, only four percent of women consider themselves to be beautiful, and seven in ten do not believe they are good enough. And it doesn’t stop there; As much as 40 percent of boys in middle- and high school are working on building muscle mass and 15 percent are trying to lose weight. And this is just about appearance.
So, what does all this do with us? Self doubt is actually one of our biggest obstacles to live a happy life. This inner voice we all have from time to time, telling us we aren’t good enough, smart enough or pretty enough. All it does is drain us of energy and happiness, resulting in an inner mental war that crush our ambitions and drags our spirit down. Self doubt can actually lead not only to problems with anxiety and depression, but serious physical aliments like high blood pressure and chronic fatigue. Additionally, we often attract the love we think we deserve and that mirror our beliefs about ourselves. It doesn’t sound that nice does it?
While reading this, some of you may think you don’t have a problem with self doubt, you’re strong and confident. That makes us very happy, but ask yourself this: do you love yourself when you make mistakes, as much as when you’re successful? Do you love yourself when someone criticizes you, as much as when somebody compliments you? Do you love yourself when you meet obstacles in life and need to start over? Do you love yourself when you take a look in the mirror or see a photo of yourself?
The French author, Honore de Balzac once wrote: “When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt”. Love, just like other emotions, is something we can choose. So stop listening to that inner voice that feeds you self doubt. Smile and give yourself compliments when you look in the mirror. Appreciate who you are and accept the different parts that make you you. It not always easy, but love never is. Still we fight for it!
When we realize the power of loving ourselves, we will live a much happier life. And remember, it’s not selfish, it’s actually necessary so we can be at peace. So embrace your own love story and connect your heart, mind and soul. Because that’s the longest relationship you will ever have.
By: Henriette Danielsen / Featured image borrowed from here.